When I hear about a friend's beloved grandparent dying...

[Hopandaskip]

...feel terribly sorry for my friend's loss, but also feel a little jealous that they had beloved grandparents as an adult?

I would never say anything of course.

if you havnt had grandparents as an adult then it must be hard m My nana died when i was 22 she had alzheimers so i felt we had lost her before that . Did your grandparents die when you were young , Its horrible to loose grandparents at whatever age , MYdds lost of of theirs at 10 and 5 they were very

No I don't think that's unreasonable at all. My beloved grandad passed away before Christmas and I'm still grieving about it. I miss him so much and wish he was here but I feel fortunate I had him here to share so much me growing up marrying having kids etc. my nan didn't see any of this as she died when I was 8. The fact I had my grandad for so long made his death easier to accept

I had only met my mother's parents a few times as a young child because they lived abroad and didn't visit. My father's father died when I was very young and my grandma who I was close to died when I was a preteen.

I'm sorry your kids lost theirs too, it is very hard whatever age I guess.

Not at all, I would love to have a living grandparent now. One died before I was born, another when I was around 8, and my last died last year, but I had only met her 2 x in my life, the last time was 6mths before she died. I was very glad to have made the effort to go and meet her and take my DSs to see her too.

I think it is hard loosing them so young my eldest daughter took it the hardest and still wont reallly speak about her she had a great relationship with her , sorry you are feeling sad at the moment ((hug))

Never had grandparents and cant remember having a mum so i dont get mothers day at all

I am so grateful that my most loved grandmother saw me married and met my PFB. I am sorry that you missed out Hop, you have every reason to feel aggrieved for yourself.

YANBU to feel jealous but I bet it's still so hard losing grandparents in adulthood.

My paternal grandfather died before I was born and my paternal grandmother (my nana) died when I was 7. Then I lost my mum's mum and dad when I was 10 (grandad) and 16 (grandma).

DH has both sets of Grandparents plus a great Nanna but he never sees them.

I still have both my Grandparents, Dads parents. But never knew Mums parents at all, died when we were young.

I will feel it terribly when I do loose them. but I know how lucky I am to still have them, I am 40 they are both in their late 90's.

YANBU. I have no family at all so hearing about any death is hard for me.

I am sorry you have lost your grandparents and sorry to everyone else for their losses.

YANBU.

Dh's Dad is ill at the moment and he is worried the worst will happen. Obviously I can understand his worry and do everything I can to support him. I would never say it to him, or anyone in RL probably, but sometimes I do find myself thinking 'you are 43 and you have had your Dad for years. If he goes, you will still be very very lucky'. I lost my Dad at 15, and as he never knew my dc and he never knew my DH, so he gets thought about very little by anyone except me.

YANBU. I didn't know one set of grandparents as they died before I was born. The other set died within a year of each other when I was a teenager. My DP who is in his 40s still has one of his grandparents and I would LOVE to be in the same position. Our first baby is due this week and I would have absolutely loved them to have met him / her. I'm in my 30s as was my mum and my grandmother when they had their first baby, so the generation gaps are quite big. DP's mum and grandmother were both 20-something though, so the generation gap is smaller and therefore more likely to have 3 or 4 generations alive at once! Does that make sense???!?

YANBU. Two of my GPs died before I was born, one died when I was 2 (I have no memories of a man who was, by all accounts, absolutely wonderful and loving to me) and I lost my last one when I was 10. She was my favourite family member, and I can still hear her voice and smell her sometimes. I felt sad when I had my DCs that they wouldn't be held by their GGPs.

YANBU at all

I'm sorry you all understand hugs to everyone who has lost someone important to them.

I feel the same. My dad's parents died within 2 months of each other when I was 11, my other grandad the next year.
I never knew my Maternal grandmother

My DC's never knew theirs either as my mum died the year before my eldest was born. The DC's do have good memories of my dad but no longer see him as he has advanced alzheimers and it would be upsetting for them.
They do have a close relationship with both Dh's parents

I am still when I hear people talking about their grandparents. Maybe my family were all late having children, or just die young!