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QuestionTime · 15/03/2012 00:09

My mum died a month ago. I loved her so much and she was literally my best friend in the world. I'm only 26 and really struggling to stay positive at the moment.
Today has been a bad day- been missing her so much and couldn't stop crying earlier. Anyway managed to pull myself together and actually be quite positive and cheery from about 6ish.
Dh has been drinking tonight (first time for a while) and I found it quite cute cos he was slurring his words etc. A couple of times during the night I smiled and teased him about it.
I hadn't seen him for about 30 mins so at 11ish I went down to say goodnight. He was reading on the sofa. I said goodnight and he said "ok" and put the book in front of his face and carried on reading.
On top of how I was feeling today this really upset me. I asked what was wrong and he said that I had ruined his first night of drinking for a while.
At this point I lost it and shouted. I even screamed a bit (not at him - more to myself in pain and frustration.) I find it so hard when he is so cold as this sort of wall comes down. I tried to discuss how I was feeling with him but he just looked so pissed off and kept his eyes closed that it was hard.
He has now just come into my room and said that if I want to split up with him then I should do it (hadn't said anything about splitting up with him)
Aibu to have got so upset?
Ps he's not that drunk - just at the level where I can tell. Someone else prob wouldn't even notice

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WorraLiberty · 15/03/2012 00:20

I'm sorry about your Mum OP, that must be very tough particularly with all this talk of Mother's Day Sad

Do you think things between you and your DH will be better tomorrow, once he's sober and you're not quite as emotional/annoyed?

Sometimes these things are better slept on.

Other than that, I have no advice I'm afraid...but I wish you well.

momnipotent · 15/03/2012 00:24

So sorry to read about your Mum OP. Perhaps your DH is frustrated because he can't do anything to make you feel better - of course he can't! Nobody can! But IME men want to fix problems and aren't so great at just listening. I hope things look better for you in the morning.

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