To not give a shiny wee shite whether

[NotInMyDay]

... people breastfeed their babies or not! Let their babies CIO or not! Carry their babies in a sling or not. Use a buggy for their 4 year olds or not. Give them Greggs' sausage rolls and Fruit Shoots or not. Home school their children or not. Get married or not. Work or not.

Notwithstanding genuine support on the relevant boards I don't get why people care so much!!

AIBU to think the worst thing we do to fellow parents is the constant judging, competing and one-up-manship.

YANBU

YANBU

I don't think they do care that much - they just like a good argument!

YANBU. notwithstanding people who genuinely want or need help, your baby is your business, mine is my business, let's all just get on with it

I care about the way other people raise their children. but not the trivial bollocks. as long as a child is clean, has a full tummy and lots of love I'm happy.

Mine isn't particularly clean. She always has a full tummy and lots of love (the full tummy is the reason for the lack of cleanliness IYSWIM).

YANBU, but I think dexter73 has a point...

well...cleanliness is all relative! not spotless...spotless children scare me!

Ok I'll add 'have scarily clean children or not'

I always wonder how people are able deal in absolutes so easily. I.e. breastfeeding = good parenting, formula feeding = not as good. Organic home cooked meals = good, Greggs sausage rolls = not as good.

But what if you breastfeed until child self weans but think Fruit Shoots are ok?

What if you FF from the word go. It are passionate about them getting their 5 a day?

Or craft with the little darling all day but watch Jeremy Kyle at the same time?

but are passionate

I agree. I feel people should just think about how they feed and raise their own children and that other peoples parenting choices are no one else business. Plus my son and I actually had a greggs sausage roll today but on the whole I would like to think I am a good mum

100% agree with you! I wish mothers would get their heads round the fact that other mothers are doing the best they can for their kids and if their way is different to your own, so what! There's enough agro out there from other people (namely men! ) so we should stick together and support each other.

People like to deal in absolutes. So, BF good, FF bad. So what if you try and it doesn't work for you or you mix feed or whatever? I BF but DD is a little grubby with porrige in her hair and eats ice cream and chocolate when I have it. But that is very infrequent. I have the telly on when she is in the room sometimes but we also read to her all the time. Bad mother, good mother? I can tell you this for free, no one at DH's work has asked him about her teeth or weaning or BFing. Because as long as he comes to work and gets paid, he is a good father. I work too but I have all the guilt to go with it.

And, I will put this out there... sometimes I could try harder. There, I said it. Sometimes I don't do the absolute best for my DD. I stopped BFing because I wanted my norks back and she bit me and drew blood. She has eaten jar food when I could have made fresh. If I see a Greggs sausage roll, you know what, I might feed a bit to her.

MrsTP I couldn't have put it better myself and I also stopped BF because DS bit me.

Your confession point about the ability to try harder makes me think though. I always try to parent by finding a balance that I think is appropriate and I'm not convinced that doing the best you always can do for your kids is necessarily the best course. I'm. It suggesting we should summarily ignore the wee blighters darlings but isn't it self preservation to take the easy route sometimes?

I care how DC are raised in general. I find it hard to get worked up about most of it but I'm sure most people have ideas they think are the 'right' way.

I see there are at least 10 of us who do not give a shiny shite
Welcome one and all.

can we form a League of Wee Shiny Shiters?

Oooo, let's do.