to just not CARE about Mothering Sunday?

[Erniesmum]

Anybody else who just doesn't do days for the sake of days? I find it almost unbearable. I'm the same about birthdays, Christmas and Valentine's so maybe I'm just a miserable git :) Anybody agree?

I agree- it is just another money-making gimmick! The shops manipulate people into thinking they must spend money to show that they love their partner/mother/father- and that anybody who doesn't spend money isn't a good partner/ child etc. We should all just boycott the whole thing and refuse to buy presents, go to restaurants etc!

What and miss out going to a heaving restaurant on a Sunday lunchtime? And getting some double the price flowers?

I have asked for no bickering for Mother's Day, It's all ridiculous.

I love it tbh!!

Dh always gets me really fab presents from the boys such as white water rafting, paragliding, and an Ice climbing day. He then gets me flowers and the usual stuff. Christmas and my birthdays are super fab as well.

He is great all year, not just on these days, but it's nice to have an extra special effort made for me.

I do the same for him on these days as well.

I'm a sucker for birthdays, Christmas and Valentine's Day (mind you, I got married on Valentine's Day, so I do actually have another reason for celebrating that one!). But my family just never 'did' Mother's Day or Father's Day and as a consequence I would feel guilty and a bit selfish making my children mark them on our behalf. MIL used to get upset when DH took my attitude and stopped bothering with it, but she's used to it now!

Both the schools my children have attended ask the children to take money into school to buy gifts for Father's Day and Mother's Day - I refuse to get involved in that on principle, however mean it might make me look!

We do Christmas and birthdays in this household, but none of the other days. Buying a present or card because all the shops are telling you that you must seems pretty pointless to me. DH never buys anything for Valentine's day, but he sometimes gets me a gift 'just because it's Tuesday' or if I've had a shit week- and that means more to me.

I like getting a nice handmade card that the dc have made at school but not interested in dp going out buying me gifts on their behalf. I don't do Valentine day either.

I do all the right gubbins for my mum and MIL but I can't really be bothered for myself, I usually have a lie in on the Sat before but this year we're going to a science fair.

I've given the kids to the ex for the weekend :-o that's how i feel about it!

Ok its his weekend anyway but still..

Thanks for reminding me I need to think of something postable for my Mum. MIL already sorted.

YANBU, I am with you Erniesmum (though I don't mind Christmas)

Bloody nora I can just imagine my face if I got given white water rafting, paragliding, or an Ice climbing day.

I shall now go BEGGING DH for a dog-eared swirly card with a nauseating verse about me being the best mother in the world and the 29p sticker still on the back and a bunch of carnations from the petrol station, ANYTHING but activity sports, Gawd save us!

You must be my long-lost twin! YANBU at all. Glad to know someone else on Earth thinks like me.

Balloon Slayer :o I have this good mental image of your appalled face as you open a gift voucher for potholing :o

This mothering sunday, I will be taking Ds2 (8) to a karate competition, as he is sparring. I will also be refereeing at the Karate competition, although not my sons event...

Ex-dh is quite good on mothering sunday, making it a bit special, getting pressies from the boys, and taking us out for a meal etc, although this year, as Ds2 is sparring trying not to let other small boys score points and I am refereeing watching other small children trying to score points on each other whilst wondering how ds2 is getting on we might not make it out for a meal on the day, but might do it one night in the week.

Although he's my ex, he does a good job of making the day a bit special, helping the boys get pressies etc - am not a big fan of the whole heaving lunchtime restaurants, but both of us try to make mothers day/ fathers day special with the kids for each other..

I agree Erniesmum. YANBU.

I couldn't give a shiny-shite about Mothers Day to be honest, or Christmas Day, or my birthday.

I've had a bit of a cold recently and have felt quite awful. I just came upstairs to find a note written by my daughter, She drew a picture of me in bed with the message "To Mum, Get well soon. We love you".

I'm a lone parent with 3 kids if that makes any difference.

THAT means more to me than some overpriced card. And on Mothers Day, it will just be like any other day. Me, the kids, bickering, constant demands, but happy.

I'm not interested either. In fact today we popped out so I could get something for our mothers and when DP asked what to get me, I actually forgot I am a mother and therefore 'due' a MD present. I told him not to bother.

When DD is older she can make me a card or a picture but for now I really don't need my DP spending our money buying me a card and some tat that says mummy.

We don't mark valentines day either, I am a girlfriend and mother all year round and when I think back on things I can think of lots of lovely moments with my DP and DD thats what makes me feel special - not a generic card, flowers that cost the earth or ever more tat that I feel I should keep because hallmark says its special!

YANBU.

This will prob make me come across as a smug-faced git, but I feel valued by my kids, so don't place too much importance upon them showing their appreciation on Mothers Day.

They are still young though, so forgive me my naive ways - I appreciate I may well be invisible to them in a few years time...

Couldn't give a crap about it. We never celebrated it growing up, except in terms of a posy of flowers from church, but in (very) recent years it was borne in on me that my Mum had a cat's bum face if she didn't get anything, and I felt guilty, so i do send her a card when I remember. DH's family is much more into it but at least he's the one who remembers cards and things in this family.

I don't care either.

I just don't like doing A Day because everyone is doing it.

On this day, you must do X, Y, Z because it's expected. That's why, to me, valentine's day is the most unromantic day of the year.

And mothering sunday. On this day you will do X, Y, Z to show that you care. Because everyone does.

But, each to their own and for a lot of people it does mean the world. I'm not saying they're wrong for feeling the way they feel - I just don't understand why. I don't understand what's romantic about organising a display of romance because the calendar says it's time and I don't understand what is showing appreciation for your mum because the calendar says it's that day of the year again. And I wonder if it's because they feel they're supposed to.

And I know - people can and do do both. I'm not saying it's either/or. I just don't get what's nice about doing something not because it's coming from you in any spontaneous way but because it's that day of the year again and everyone does it. Why not be romantic on June 8th, or take your mum out for dinner on August 16th. Why everyone pile in on the same day of the year, every year, because that's The Day.

But it's very difficult to express that POV without people feeling like it's a criticism of them, which it's not.

Oh me too - ds makes me breakfast in bed and gives me a card and a bunch of daffy and that's it, which is fine by me.

I tend to view mothers day as a learning tool for my Ds's to teach them to think of others and spend time buying a small reasonably priced gift for me and the same for their dad on fathers day, in the hope that when they have a spouse they will be thoughtful enough to remember her/his birthday etc but other than that I think it's all a bit false really!

I agree with suzieaisy its for children to realise it isnt all about them and other people matter too , I feel sad when i see some mums say MY lot didnt even get me a card aww never mind , which was a friends facebook status last year . I dont get spa days or anything expensive its not our thing , as long as i dont have to cook tea and get a card im happy ,

I declined lunch out and asked that go somewhere outdoors. There are some lovely country parks where we live.

Unfortunately DD2 is a Brownie and I will be expected to churchwhich will bugger up the morning. Oh shit

Ds is learning how to make tea this week so he is all prepared for Sunday

got him well trained valium

dd1 said erm mum i will give you a card on saturday cos i will be hungover sunday

Nah - it's another 'Hallmark Day' I say.

However, have bought DM and DMil a card each (same design 'cos I got pissed off trawling through all the over sentimental drivel) - and one has a plant, the other some chocs. Done. Because we 'have' to...

I don't expect anything - and am not bothered. certainly won't be going out for lunch/dinner - just a glass of wine before noon will keep me sweet