To ask my neighbour...

[BrownBoobBear]

To stop hammering, drilling and loud banging at 7.30 at night? Or AIBU ?

That's quite early to be fair. Some people finish work at 5 don't get home till maybe 6? Perhaps it's his only time to do DIY? Unless he's a work from home carpenter odds are it'll be a few days then back to normal. I'm assuming you're worried about the noise disturbing a child. If he has ever complained about the noise involved in raising said child, go nail nail his foot to the floor, otherwise YABU.

YABU. 7:30? Mine started at 8pm last night. STARTED!

Actually, I am prepared to say YANBU but only if you come and complain to my neighbours too

We have young DC's and it's a loft conversion. I've been at work all day, and I just want to relax...!

If you don't feel up to asking neighbour to stop, YWBfarfromU to knock on front door looking exhausted and harassed and ask ever so naicely how long the noise will last.

Have sent DH to do just that. They are very nice, it stopped straight away and now I feel like a cretin as it wasn't THAT late. They have young DCs also, so obv not bothering them.

Just find it terribly inconsiderate. Maybe I am too sensitive.

I know it's frustrating when you just want to put your feet up.I spent the weekend gardening with my DS. DS + spade + soil = excitement + noise. I know the teenager next door wanted to kill us 9am Sunday morning. But that teenager also has a drum kit.

It's either live in a commune of mothers with small children or accept you live next to people with different lifestyles which may occasionally encroach on yours.

Wow! YABU and very inconsiderate. Never mind it not being THAT late, it isn't late at all.

Nothing inconsiderate about not tolerating really loud noises when it's the end of the day and you're knackered, Bear.

I accept the different lifestyle thing. I listen to their tv long into the night.... And I know they hear DCs early in morning etc.

It was just soo loud. Not normal every day living noise and that in my opinion is different. Construction workers have to stop at 6.30!

May speak to him in morning to clear the air. Think I am too tired to reason tonight.

I would have waited until about 9.

Before 9am and after 9pm I'd consider unreasonable.

Dodge so you think starting loud building work at 7.30 is reasonable when we have 2 young DCs who need to sleep??

We have VERY loud music practise which starts at 8ish.

Do they not remember the song "everybody needs GOOD neighbours"?

Pamela stephenson (when she was being funny) said she would soooner have thrush than neighbours. Agreed.

But if they are doing DIT, when do you expect them to do the work?

I think it would be fine to ask how long they think it will go on (and asking that will make them aware it is a noisy problem!), but 7.30 is not really very late. Domestic noise is meant to quiet down by 11pm around here (it's subject to local laws so yours may be different).

*DIY, obviously, sorry.

Sorry above message was for dodiesmith, not dodge!

Its frustrating, I know, but IME, the only way to deal with neighbour's DIY noise is to focus on the fact that the more hours they are working, the quicker it will be done.

The thing is, it is almost certain that at some point in your lifetime it will be you wanting to do some home improvements. On that basis, it kind of makes sense to foster a spirit of tolerance to DIY noise, as when its you, you might be grateful of it.

Gosh, how preachy do I sound in that post? - came out a bit wrong

Doom, it's not my problem that 730 is the only time they can do it. They need to consider their neighbours. I mean, it was just hammering in a nail. Our walls were shaking and floors vibrating!

Wasn't hammering in a nail obviously!

A spirit of tolerance is all good, but they should really have warned you in advance about work/noise and let you know how long it was likely to go on.

Fair point Plump

Cake, I wouldn't do it in the evening. I know as I worry too much about noise and what the neighbours think of me.

Well, I guess it comes down to personal preference at the end of the day - I'd rather have a week of pain rather than 4 weeks of dragged out torture.

I agree though that discussing this with you first would have been the courteous thing to do.

You see though, in my Utopian DIY vision, nobody would mind their neighbour's DIY noise, so therefore you wouldn't ever need to worry about disturbing your neighbours or what they think of you

Cake, I think I will go round speak to them. I am aware that I have a low noise tolerance threshold and may be BU.

We get on well as neighbours, not great friends, but nice and chatty and DCs play together a lot.

Always try and maintain good relations. :)

That's probably the best thing to do; there's nothing wrong with having a low noise-tolerance, but they'll never know that unless you tell them.

I'm sure you can come to a compromise that you're both happy with.