Is this being resonable?

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When I was dating my husband second time, he said ''My mum keeps asking me to meet someone and I said 'I dont want it.' She didnt know my husband was seeing me and he was 36 at that time. Is it reasonable a mum wants to arrange his adult son to meet a girl?

You what?

Do you mean there was a woman she knew and she wanted your DH to date her?

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

Ummm. What?

Ah I get it.
Well you're married to him now. She didn't know about you when she asked. I wouldn't worry about it.

I think that's what OP means Worra

In which case, it depends

Perfectly normal
Most mums want their kids to settle down

Yes we need clearer more info

Riiiight...

so you are now married to this bloke, presumably have met his mother, and this is still worrying you???

To ask my neighbour to stop loud hammering and banging at 7.30 at night?

Wota bitch! Leave the bastard!

Depends on whether that is the norm in his family/culture, tbh.

As long as she doesn't have a problem with hm having chosen for himself, i would let it go.

My mums forever going on about me meeting a man now I'm wondering if she has a particular man in mind.

Huh?

Sorry I gave you a confusion.

My mother-in-law asked(encourged) my husband to meet someone who she would introduce before she knew I was dating him. She of course thought my husband wasnt seeing anyone at that time. I dont know who she was thinking, maybe her friend's acquaintance?..My husband said to his mum ' I dont want'.

But it doesn't matter now does it? Unless she still insists on him meeting this other woman (or doesn't know about you !

Why are people going at a poster who doesn't appear to have English as a first language? Don't be so rude

"in the early stages of our relationship, my now MIL was very interested in when her 36 yo son would settle down. Is this reasonable and a normal thing to ask?"

Yes, OP, it's quite common for parents of adults to want to see them happily settled. Your MIL was probably keen to have grandchildren - I was single for 5 years in my mid 20s and my Grandmother asked me every time she saw me!

No I'm not worrying about anything she liked me as soon as I met her. But having thought I wondered if she tried to arrange a date is normal as a parent in this culture.

Have you been smoking anything funny this evening?

If not, are you aware that you are not posting in full and clear sentences?

In White British culture, men and women are expected to make their own arrangements, which is why parents worry.

I expect your husband wanted to see how serious your relationship was before introducing you to his family.

May I ask what your culture is and how things are done?

I am in my forties and a single parent..my dad is always trying to get me to do internet dating so it is not unusual in any culture, just depends how interfering and nosey / well-meaning the parents are!

In my culture men and women are expected to make their own arrangements , that's why I thought it would be strange for a parent to try to arrange a date of her son. If the girl is who she knows, that would mean she wanted to have her son marry who she is interested.

Or it might just be that her son had been on his own for a while, and might like to be introduced to someone?

She likes you. Her son is happy. I don't think you have anything to worry about :)

Perhaps since he was 36 she thought he needed a shove helping hand?

It is normal in white British culture for people to make their own arrangements to meet partners. But it is also normal for parents who are getting worried about their son/daughter finding a partner to introduce or suggest possible partners.

A shove is about right!

When I was 25 my Gran asked me when she'd be getting great grand children. I told her that if she wanted me to go out on the town and get knocked up I would but I'd prefer to know who the father was. She backed off a bit after that