To find DH bloody infuriating?

[scentednappyhag]

I probably am, but I'm irritated and need some shouting at gentle perspective

Background- we're skint. Proper, stretching money until it's practically transparent skint. I'm budgeting the food shop to within an inch of it's life, and it's flippin' hard to do.

Now I'm getting wound up because DH is just gorging himself every night. If we're having, for example, baked potatoes, he'll cook four and pretend to be shocked that I just want one and eat three for his dinner.
If we're having a sandwich at lunch time, he'll use six slices of bread for himself.
I'm finding it difficult to believe that anyone is just that hungry, and it's pure gluttony at a time when we just can't afford to keep topping up food that I've planned to last.
Also, I'm trying to lose sone weight at the moment, and I'm finding it bloody annoying that he keeps telling me he's lost a stone this month without even trying, despite eating everything in sight.

AIBU to think that if we are struggling to make ends meet at the moment, he could try just having, I don't know, two chicken breasts for dinner instead of four?
I know, I know, it's his face- he can shove what he likes into it... I'm just having a moan aren't I?

I was going to say YABU if it's only potatoes and bread...but chicken breasts are expensive.

I think if you're used to eating a lot, it takes a while for your appetite to decrease though.

Maybe buy a loaf of cheapo bread and he can fill up on toast after dinner?

How on earth can he be losing weight! Are you sure he's not ill? What did he eat before you were skint?

yabu for potatoes and bread but I agree with worra on the chicken breasts - that'd cost a fortune. If he needs to fill up, can you cook buckets of pasta for him?

i understand what is going on... but if hes hungry... he's hungry

let him do the budgeting or as in our house, we buy a loaf on monday and that has to last till wednesday. eat as much as you like on Monday, but if there isnt any on Wednesday, then tough.

Having said that, if things are really tight, he might not be having a lunch at work because they are expensive. It is ALWAYS cheaper to eat at home, even a whole pack of chicken.

does he do a manual job?

Poopoo- he hasn't really lost any, clothes all still fit the same etc. I think he knows I'm getting annoyed and it's trying to deflect it IYSWIM.
Worra- I see your point, it's just so annoying to carefully plan the shopping, and still have to be topping up every couple of days.
I could do with a whine wine.

But bread and potatoes still cost money and if you are skint and have bought food for the week then it will be annoying if he is eating Wednesday's and Thursday's dinner on a Tuesday.

Tapeworm?

Matey- He takes lunch to work, and works in IT, so only manual for his hands

Anchorwoman

Did he eat like that before? If he's eating so much and he's still losing weight then he's a lucky bastard he might be ill?

Maybe try talking to him about it and explaining what you're trying to do?

YANBU, I think you may be married to my DH. We are not on a huge strict budget, but we do need to be very careful or we will be in trouble, I do the shop on a Saturday and when I go to get something to cook I find it gone, that really bloody annoys me!

Re the chicken, I have started to buy frozen, that'll stop the little bugger!

Stripy- he's been the same on and off for years. He'll go on a health kick (and buy all kinds of expensive powders for shakes etc) and then we'll get back to eating everything anything.
I feel mean, because I'd be mortified o someone was moaning about what I ate, but it's just frustrating.
I'm certain he's not ill

Well, least you can rant on here without resorting to tying him to a chair and shoving food down his throat while shouting "how'd you like them apples, huh!". :o

Now there's an idea
Oh Mumsnet, the atrocities I may have committed without you!

Re the chicken; chop it up into little pieces and bulk out with loads of veg in stews and casseroles; it will work out far cheaper than eating whole breasts each

Also I agree with the idea of buying value bread and he can fill himself up on toast after dinner

ooooh i hate that. DP has a huge appetite and it's often just pure greed. We both work long hours so when i cook i often make enough for 2 dinners, but if he knew there was more he would eat it. But not all of it; he would pick the meat out and leave the veg. So i would do a chicken curry with 5 breasts diced, but after dinner he would pick the chicken out of the pan while it was cooling!

Same if i do a roast and want left over meat for the next day, he wont eat the veg but goes back for more meat till there isn't enough left over for another dinner. So now i have to cook exactly enough, or dish it up out of sight and store the leftovers before we have dinner.

I don't mind him eating other stuff but meat is fucking expensive and the veg then goes to waste. It's really frustrating.

that sounds like pure greed to me...

my husband is 6ft tall, does a physical job, and has a great appetite, but even he would struggle to eat 3 jacket spuds unless they are tiny, and as for four chicken breasts, again, unless it was KFC, if it was with a regular meal, two would be more than sufficient.

Spuddybean I know you're not supposed to freeze from hot, but I've started doing it with leftovers when I'm dishing up the tea, because if it's out of sight in the freezer I won't eat it.

OP, that would really annoy me too. If he is hungry I can see it would be hard. I agree about the Low GI foods and someone mentioned being thirsty. I find if I have a large drink of water during/after dinner and wait a bit, I'm not hungry in a while. Also maybe things like jelly for pudding because it can be made very cheap but feels like you are eating something? I agree with whoever said give him the budget job for a week - he needs to take some responsibility.

I think I'll just start making raspberry jelly and sausage pies with custard and mashed potato. See if he still wants fourths seconds then

Saw a diet tip somewhere recently - just keep stuff you don't much like in your fridge, then you'll only eat it when you're really hungry . Try that on him - only buy food he doesn't really like!

try talking to him. its quite easy

YANBU

My DP is like this sometimes and it irritates the hell out of me. Have talked to him about it no end of times but it makes no difference. If I make a dinner with enough leftovers for another meal he'll dish up the lot, or eat a huge second helping before it's cooled down enough to go in the freezer.

Annoyingly though he's really,really tight when he makes sandwiches - think one slice of super thin ham. I just can't win!

Sorry OP I have no advice, but I do sympathise.

Thanks Mini, wouldn't have thought of talking to him
Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone everyone