"When *my* Rachel arrived 3 years ago, I gave up me job"

[AwkwardMary]

"Blah blah blah....now I'm a WORKING MUM at the nursery!"

effing ICS advert makes me go all stabby....AIBU to want to kck the TV when it comes on?

It's a combo of "My Rachel" and "Working Mum" that really twats me off....she's not a "workng Mum" anymore than my DH is a "working Dad."

AIBU????

Does your Husband have kids?

If so, he's a working Dad

GAAHHHHH!!!! NO! He's a frigging working MAN and I am a woman! I'm not Mum to anyone but my DC so I cant be described as that by anyone ELSE!

[runs round room stabbing furniture]

I have not seen that one but YANBU. I can't stand advert speak. "Busy Mums" is the one that gets my blood pressure up, as though nobody could possibly be as busy as "us busy mums".

Huh? it's being used as an adjective not a noun.

I personally like being called a "mum" it's something i'm very proud of. My best achievement to-date

On a serious note, I see what you mean

I hate that advert too although I can't put my finger on why.

I think it's a combination of when she says one of the other mums is doing an ICS course in Psychology. Because thats going to be really useful, I don't know many child Psychologists who signed up to the £300 ICS course. And the other thing that annoys me is the assumption that you because you have children that you must now want to work with children too.

That's right Hazie and she says it in a really impressed tone of voice too.

Puchai whatever...you know what I mean.

mojito really? Are you sure that the way your DC have turned out isn't the most impressive acheivement of yours? I mean procreation isn't something to be proud of unless you've faced massive problems...

I mean procreation isn't something to be proud of unless you've faced massive problems...

So people who had an easy time of procreating shouldn't be proud of themselves, but people who had massive problems can be?

And nobody is allowed to call you a Mum unless you are their Mum?
And your DH who is a Dad and works cannot be called a Working Dad?

OP I think you sound a bad tempered old fart. Back in Your dustbin with Oscar the Grouch! And stop stabbing stuff.

YANBU - that advert is lame

I don't like any of those terms anyway - "working mum", "stay at home mum". Dads don't get this crap.

Someone asked me if I was a "full time mum" this morning - surely we're all full time mums, working or not.

And just, like, don't put me in a box man!!

I am very mixed up about how I feel about my maternity leave ending soon, but one of the things I am looking forward to is that presumably, when I am out and about without my children, random strangers won't address me as "mum".

I filled in a survey questionnaire recently from the children's centre and when they asked what I would like from a children's centre I left it blank because I couldn't think of a sensible way to express "a place to go to meet other people who are around in the day and may have children, without it being the sort of place where everyone calls themselves a "mum"".

"The alternative fucking children's centre" perhaps.

OP I'm with you, that advert irritates me enormously whenever I see it.

Mary has gone hysterical I do see what you mean the sterotype of women with children are working mums , well my mum has adult children is she a working mum , when do mums stop being working mums and just be working , I think i may have over used the word mum and working sorry mary

Actually with laughter at "Back in your dustbin with Oscar". It's obviously been an emotional day here...

Ooh! I see. Does that mean I am not a working mum? Hurrah! All the angst and guilt can be ditched

*Crying with laughter. Oh dear...

Irritated the hell out of me. Especially as the woman is a lady who lunches on a bloody ryvita advert or something. I have a special talent for tracking annoying people from one advert to another (green giant and weetabix lady)

I personally dislike her sense of pitiful gratitude and the rain mac she pops on, in a mumsy fashion. OOHHHH look, those nice people gave me a job. I so hated being a physicist, but now I get to be a mum and work." PLEASE DON'T GET ME STARTED.

Been a shit day here too on that front.

i hate the fact she goes on about all the choices to get women back in work. " you can get a childcare qualification, or even beauty therapy"

fuck off

I know. cos thats what we all want to be deep down. i regret my long and hard won education as now I stand in my 40's and realise, I should have been a beauty therapist, all that time wasted. all those bikini waxes I have lost out on inflicting on unsuspecting fellow women....the good I could have done

I don't want to diss beauty therapists. some of my friends are

"when my Rachel came along I obviously left me brain in t'delivery room. I'm so happy that I now have a low paid, no prospects job. That's what society expects of mothers. Crikey, heaven forbid that, gulp, men do 50% of childcare and go p/t. Go on, other courses available - cleaners, supermarket workers. You'll so enjoy buying into the cliche that fathers should not interrupt their career trajectory!!'

Highlander my husband is doing whoops of delight today. A new positon, new improved salary.....I could not even fake happiness for him. So I amm off to do a childcare course. I will be underpaid for it and the nursery will overcharge and not one bugger will give a shit about the quality.

Ha! I go away and come back again to find that nearly EVERYONE hates her and her stupid mac too!

at you all!

Highlander you put it beautifully!

"When my Rachel came along, I began to pull out my eyelashes one by one as the reality of my situation hit me.....I really LIKED being a lawyer...but here I am picking up stickle bricks for the rest of my working life!"