Ok this is very long and complicated but I will try and be brief.
I split up with my ex...lets call him TOM 10 years ago we have a DS (13). Over the last year my DS has become very withdrawn and quiet. It turns out TOM has been telling him I am a prostitute, I wanted an abortion when I was pregnant with DS, I prefer my DD (2) to him etc etc..
I spoke with my DS who begged me not to tell TOM I knew what had been said, because TOM would not want to see him any more.....so I kept quiet and advised DS to tell TOM that his little talks upset him and he was there to visit his dad not talk about me.
TOM had not seen DS since before xmas and finally decided to see him in the middle of February. DS decided it would be a 'good idea' to bring his xbox back without telling TOM, as he had been told it may be 2 weeks before he sees him again.......thats when all mother of sh*tstorms broke loose.
TOM not only forced his way into my home for the xbox, but punched me in the face, called his son a f*cking thief and said he never wanted to see him again or pay child support. Later I actually managed to record him (twice) saying how if a child support letter came through his door I would have my face sliced open.
Obviously I called the police, and contacted the CSA, (turns out he has only paid half what he is supposed to for the last 10 years). TOM now has an harassment order against him and I have a DV marker on my home in case he turns up.......but it gets better....
Turns out that since this...TOM and his gf have phoned SS saying I leave my children alone at night, DWP saying I have someone living with me, (I wish), and my work making serious allegations against me....I have actually been suspended as the job I do involves Data Protection and they have to investigate any complaint.
Before all this kicked off I split with my recent other half...lets call him HARRY...we have a 2 year old DD....
He has not only spent valentines evening with TOM, discussing me, (whilst my DS was there plotting to take his xbox), but refused to pay any Child support till today and said he does not want to see his DD because he needs a life....wtf!
HARRY lives 3 streets away in a small village, so it's pretty hard to avoid him and DD keeps asking if Daddy is at work!
HARRY has now gone round telling everyone he knows that I won't let him see DD and painting himself out to be superdad. I have even had the police round because he has said I am threatening him.....untrue...I did however (in temper) plaster all over facebook that he didn't want to see his daughter.
I have had enough, I am ready to take the kids and move someplace nobody knows me, and I don't have to deal with the pair of them...after all TOM + HARRY = DICK to the power of 2