Is 5 weeks later, too late to send a bereavement card?

[Whoneedssleepanyway]

Maybe this is a stupid question, but a good friend's sister died recently, she had been ill for a long time. I have obviously been in close contact with my friend to support her during this time but had been intending to send a card to her parents also who I know but not especially well (I didn't know her sister at all really). I feel awful that I haven't done this yet, is it too late do you think? I am not sure what to do.

Thanks.

Could you send a blank card with your own message in, perhaps?

More, 'thinking of you' than 'sorry for your sad loss'?

Not too late at all. It will be nice for her to know that someone is still thinking of her after all the initial concern has calmed down.

Thanks, yes maybe that is better to send a card saying wanted them to know I had been thinking of them, heard the memorial service was lovely and hopefully chance to share some happy memories of her and just wanted them to know they were in my thoughts.

That would be lovely. It is never too late for that sort of card.

whoneedssleep put exactly that in your card, it's a lovely message to send

I think it's almost better to do it now, tbh.

A lot of people send them in the early days because 'it's what you do'. It's when people make a lot of cards, and offer a lot of help and support.

By 5 weeks, people have almost 'forgotten' and returned to their own lives. So to send a Thinking of You card, shows that you have remembered what has happened to them and reminds them that you are thinking about them.

Definitely still send your thoughts. Sometimes it takes a while to even open the cards because they are painful to read (though obviously very thoughtful and well meaning). As the family slowly feel less raw, they will take comfort from the thoughts and wishes in these cards/ notes.

Yes, a card at this point would be very thoughtful. Agree that 'sympathy cards' all come straight away but to get a 'thinking of you' card later should be well received. I wish I had had more of these later on.

No, it's not too late to let someone know you are thinking of them. They'll be touched to receive such a card.

I actually try to do this tbh - send a card or note after a few weeks rather than straight away because as Folk and Kitty say, 'real life' has restarted for everyone else by then and I think that's when bereaved people are usually at their lowest ebb. Put what you put in your post. Could also say how proud you are of your friend and how she's handled it?

My Dad died 6 weeks ago, and I would be please to receive a card. I think Wilson has hit the nail on the head, x