To think an occasional show of appreciation would be nice (SAHM)

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I have been a SAHM since our dc were born. Youngest dc (age 4) is now at school. Dh works reasonable hours, generally home at 6, leaves in the morning at 8. He is very good at all household maintainance, sorts out bills etc. I do everything else - washing, shopping, cleaning,cooking, sorting out dc, ensuring they are doing homework, learning to read etc. Dh is great with the dc in that he plays with them but none of the mundane stuff.
I appreciate i am lucky to be at home with the dc, and do generally enjoy it. But there are times when it is hard work/mundane and i am sometimes ready for a break at weekends or the odd evening when dc have been a bit demanding.
I don't think DH means it, but he never shows or tells me he appreciates what i do, often doesn't even say he likes the food i've made him etc., never makes me a drink.
Is this the life of a SAHM or AIBU?

YANBU but being taken for granted is an occupational hazard for anyone in a long-term relationship, SAHM or no. I find telepathy doesn't work and hints are just as useless. If you're pissed off about the ingratitude, articulate it. If you want help, demand it.

I think everyone likes appreciation for what they do.

However ... do you thank your DH for everything he does? Very easy to fall into the habit of not thanking people just for doing the things that are "expected" of them.

Yep, do you 'thank' or 'appreciate' your DH for leaving the house every morning whether he feels like it or not, and working really hard all day which means you've been able to stay at home with the children?

I agree that being taken for granted happens in every relationship. You need to appreciate each other.

I thought about that redsky, and no i don't think i do thank dh enough for stuff he does. I don't ever thank him for going to work or mowing the grass. Maybe he feels just like me.

Maybe you should start to let him know how much you appreciate him, and see if he follows suit.

I think if everyone responded to the questions as you did - honestly, self-critically, thoughtfully and with real generosity of spirit ... then the world would be a better place.