AIBU to think my ex should be there

[hathorinareddress]

At the arranged time for drop off of the kids and if he's not he should contact me to let me know when he will be there/WTF is going on?

and not hang his mobile up the minute I phone him

Yanbu at all

Did he ever turn up?

I brought the kids back to mine and put them to bed. He turned up at 10.45pm looking to take them. I refused.

Apparently I am trying to stop him seeing his children.

And I must also "admit and accept" that he doesn't do these things on purpose he was busy and he "just forgot".

We had a massive row words.

He's to be here for 7.15am to collect them (I have a very early start on a Monday for work and he always takes them to school "for me")

What a knob, of course YANBU

did he get them this morning?

He's an idiot clearly.

It basic respect to let you know what's going on or not.

You can hardly keep your kids up all night in the hope he'll turn up.

I had to work on one of 'my' weekends recently, let my XP know at the soonest oppertunity, and if I treated my XP as you described I'd full expect her not to then try and sort out alternatives.

Can I ask - if he had them Sunday and was picking them up first thing Monday why not just have them stay with their dad Sunday night. Surely better for you, him and most importantly the children as they aren't being moved around all the time.
This would resolve the issue of getting back on time whern they're busy too.
Not saying being late is acceptable, but the current arrangements are likely inflaming the situation and causing unneccessary meeting with your ex that could be avoided

LateMates: the ex didn't turn up to collect his DC then wanted them at

10.45pm instead? Or have I misunderstood the thread?

Not condoning behaviour - I just read it that children were with their father - he was late dropping off and hadn't informed mum they would be late. This then resulted in a argument between mum and dad.
No idea why he would then turn up at 10.45pm as that is clearly not acceptable.
I must have read it wrong

I usually drop the kids to him between 8 and 8.30pm on a Sunday if it's my weekend

We rocked up as usual - not a fucking bastard sinner there. Lights out. House in darkness

(and unlocked fwiw I could have cleaned the place out)

Then he wanted them at 10.45 when he remembered he was supposed to have them coz, um, he forgot.

ARSE

And I took them up this morning.

Ah well.

sigh.

Is it too early for have to be as I have kids to collect from school.