To think that ex should spend time with the DD's on his contact weekend?

[Zacsbird]

That's it really. Ex hubby has the DD's every other weekend and as a taxi driver obviously has to work for some of that time. However I have found out through FB ( I know, the devils work) that he has worked during the day today and is out to see a band tonight.

I suppose I should add that it is his bday today so I can kind of forgive this one, but also know that his band is playing a gig next time he has contact, so I imagine he won't see much of them again. Only the youngest DD has actually gone this weekend as her sister has been ill all week so chose to stay at home with me, so DD 9 is stuck at her dads with her stepbrother tonight.

I just think he should make a bit more of an effort, would appreciate opinions.

Hmmm, it's so difficult isn't it.
My dd2 is sometimes left with babysitters because exh is on a night out when she goes to his. However, there is not a lot I can do about this seeing as he has no say over when I may get babysitters either.
The thing that pisses me off is when exh doent't read to dd/help with homework over his weekends, she gets it set on friday and it needs to be in on monday, he knows this but there is always some excuse . Just one of those things really.

But no, YANBU. He should try to make some time in his weekend to spend quality time with his children.

Totally agree - He should make more effort to see them when he isnt working if he can. He does need to work though, maybe you could change times to suit a bit better?
My ex thinks nothing of not having Dc so he can go out .. Leaves them with who ever so he can work when they would rather just stay home with me....if I get a babysitter Im dumping the kids yet again (been out 3 times in 9 months btw - call social services quick!) So I get your frustration.

Hi thanks for your replies. Changing contact times isn't really an option, I work during the week and fought hard at the time of our separation to get the Ex to agree to every other weekend!

I just feel so sad for them, they have nothing at his, they are literally guests for
4 days every month. I know there's not a lot I can do at the moment really.

yanbu, I used to get really annoyed about this kind of thing; ex would have her 6 nights a month but get his mum/friends/girlfriend to babysit half the time so she didn't disrupt his social life
Not a lot you can do about it really though. What do your dds think? You could encourage them to express their displeasure to him if they are bothered.

Aren't they asleep/in bed when he see's this band?

Oh Alfalfamum if only!

There is no way they would actually admit that they don' t like the situation, he can do no wrong! Or at least they won't admit that to me, or dare say it to him.:(

I imagine they are Boston, but if he wasn't going out then he wouldn't be working in the day as well. Therefore not seeing much of them at all....

If this is a one off then YAB a bit U, if it's like this almost every weekend that he has them then YANBU.

The last time my DS went to see his father, he hadn't seen him for 3 months. His father sent him out to the park for 3 hours to play with his new gf's son (who he'd never met before) whilst he did some painting and decorating. My son was only over there for 5 hours. I understand your annoyance fully OP.