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to think i could find a job and make it work?

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MarriedInVegas · 10/03/2012 23:20

Given the choice i would like to be a sahm until dd (4 months) starts school, however, money is more than tight at the minute. After paying rent, council tax, bills etc we just about break even, but every month we have to borrow money so the next we have all the normal bills to pay plus repaying what we borrowed the previous month iyswim! I am sick of always worrying about money, not having any holidays, feeling panic and guilt every time i spend money on something that is not essential. it seems the obvious solution is for me to find work.
The problem is though that

a) we have no family/friends around to help with child care (i would find it ridiculously hard to leave dd anyway, but needs must!)

b) we cannot afford professional child care

c) i am still exclusively breast feeding

d) i live in one of the most depived areas for employment (there are just very few jobs available here. very high numbers for people on jsa)

e)dh works very different shifts that change every few days so would be difficult to work around his schedule.

The more i think about our situation though, the more i think there must be something i could do! what have you done in these circumstances? how have you worked around it?? would you employ someone like me with these limitations over a sing person with no children and less hassle working different rotas each week? help and advice greatly appreciated!

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MarriedInVegas · 10/03/2012 23:26

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MarriedInVegas · 10/03/2012 23:39

If no one wants to comment or give advice, i am also willing to except generous donations....

Grin Grin Grin

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thecook · 10/03/2012 23:44

Sorry can't offer much advice, but how about casual work?

Chunkamatic · 10/03/2012 23:52

I cant really offer advice I'm afraid, but am in slightly similar circumstances.

I have 2 pre school age DC's and no family nearby to help with childcare and DH works shifts (sounds similar they rotate as he works 8 day weeks) so am really struggling to get my head around this. At the moment I cant see that I would earn more than I would pay out for childcare, CM's round here are about £6 ph for one child.

I would however like to get back in to work, not only for a bit of financial relief now but for the long-term too.

We have nothing left at the end of the month once the essentials are covered and our overdraft is maxed out - although that is our only debt...

Shit isn't it?!

Threeprinces · 10/03/2012 23:54

What skills do you have? What previous work did you do?

StealthPolarBear · 11/03/2012 00:02

self emplyment seems obvious choice something where you can pick your hours...anythign there?

Iheartpasties · 11/03/2012 00:06

can you take in peoples ironing or washing? could you do some cleaning?

effingwotsits · 11/03/2012 00:10

Set up your own Internet business. Are you arty/crafty.

TheCrackFox · 11/03/2012 00:19

Have you thought about starting your own childminding business?

rhondajean · 11/03/2012 00:21

Childminding seems obvious...

I applaud your drive.

MarriedInVegas · 11/03/2012 00:26

Thankyou!
casual work is kind of what im doing but not making even nearly enough more money.
I have always had really good customer service skills, was supervisor at my last job, really good people skills, very hard working ect i do actually think that im a good catch for an employer as i know how hard i work, but im not naive enough to be believe that there arnt 20 more people out there with the same skills as me but without all the family commitment issues.

im actually really crafty, but id have no idea how to set up my own internet business. wouldn't even know where to start!

-im shit at ironing. i only buy clothes that i know i wont have to iron! think iv got more chance of being a brain surgeon than a half decent ironing lady! but thanks Grin

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MarriedInVegas · 11/03/2012 00:32

hmmm child minding? I didn't think that was an option? certainly something to think about though! im not sure how id go about that but ill be looking into that one! would people not mind me minding their child whilst looking after my own at the same time though? feeling rather positive about this all now! :)

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Threeprinces · 11/03/2012 00:35

Good for you. Good luck :-)

rhondajean · 11/03/2012 00:38

No - your own child just comes off the numbers of children you can mind.

Ie if you are licensed for five in total and two under threes and yours is two, you can have one other under three and another three older children.

And you get to SAH in a way.

Check it out, I couldn't do it but it is a good option for many people.

fallenpetal · 11/03/2012 00:56

Deliver local papers - use the pram to carry dc and said papers - its not much but it all helps :) I did this, the exercise was just what I needed after having a baby and I could stop when I liked to sling feed
You could also do leaflets or Avon

blonderthanred · 11/03/2012 00:59

Don't know where you live but Theatres often work on a changeable rota, you just sign up for the shifts you are free a couple of weeks ahead. might work with your CS background.

jojane · 11/03/2012 00:59

When I had my first child I was in a similar situation with dh in shifts etc I started working for teletech@home which is like working in a call centre Bt from home! You use your computer and the phone and headset they provide and take calls. I did that for a year until I went on maternity with my second. After that I decided I wanted a more social job so got a job in a bar/ restaurant where I could arrange shifts around my husbands shifts. I then registered as a childminder but got pregnan with my third so practically wasnt suitabl to childmind with my own 3 children being 4 and under. I have just gone back to the resturant.
Regarding breast feeding I fed all of mine until 11 months, 14 months and just weaned by youngest at 16 months. I would express milk for there feeds while I was at work, feed them before I went and was generally back for the 12/1 am feed. Once they got to about 11/12 months they would have cows milk instead of me expressing. They have all been fine with it (generally 2/3 nights a week).
Something else you could think of is something like Avon - you could take you child with you

fallenpetal · 11/03/2012 01:00

Can you sew?

Apparently big call for sewing on buttons and hemming trousers .... I have 6 pairs to do for friends, in return I was given a bag of spuds from one, home made cakes and 2 days of school runs (bargain)

BertieBotts · 11/03/2012 01:07

Another thing is if DH is on a low wage and one of you works 30 hours per week, the other 16, you get help with childcare, around 70% paid.

If you found a flexible childminder this could work, I work in retail so my shifts change depending on the rota. I do have some family to help out but even if I didn't have them, I think it could work - the key is a flexible employer and flexible childcare. Although Childminding as a job in itself sounds as though it could be ideal for you. Why were you not sure if it is an option?

MummytoKatie · 11/03/2012 11:36

Have you heard of Lionbridge? I don't really know what it is about (they are very very secretive and those who work for them have to sign an NDA) but it looks like it is very flexible home working. There is a huge thread on it on the Up Your Income section of MSE which I read one night when dd decided to go on sleep strike. You can only do it for 11 months but it would get you well past the ebf stage.

I went back to work when dd was 11 months old and had a couple of months of 3 feeds a day - 1 expressed and then dropped to 2 which I'm still doing now. (She's 23 months.)

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