To grass my neighbour up to my husband ??!!

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My DH is ultimately my neighbours boss. She has a second job and has called in sick to my DH dept, leaving them short of staff . Should I tell him or her that I know??

I would definitely tell. Calling in sick to take wages you're not entitled to is stealing

It doesn't have to be an actual difficult position it's really Passing A Message

She surely knows what your H does?

However, I would still, at this point, stay schtum, assuming that I did not know all the facts. Presumably this cannot be a long term arrangement. I wonder too about her personal circs that she would potentially jeopardise her job.

I would tell your husband

If you were thinking of ringing someone who you had no contact with to tell them I'd think you were bu. But if it's your husband? Well why wouldn't you tell him, I'm sure he'd be pretty annoyed if he found out you knew and didn't tell him, I tell my DH everything so I wouldn't think twice about it

JustHecate!

Seriously though, she must be expecting your DH to hear about this. I'm friends with my boss' wife, and I know that anything I tell her I have to be happy for him to know as well!

"I wonder too about her personal circs that she would potentially jeopardise her job."
But presumably she intends to resign from the NHS at some point, so doesn't see it as jeopardising anything. As for circumstances - could be as simple as a mismatch between when the NHS would last pay her and when she'd get her first paypacket from her new employer.

I wouldn't be so sure of that WhereYouLeftIt. Why would she resign from the NHS job while they pay her full sick pay as well as earning elsewhere? It's fraud.

Of course you should tell him, your loyalty lies with your husband not your neighbour. Assuming she knows your husband is as you say ultimately her boss she was pretty stupid to tell you about it, she couldn't possibly expect you to lie to your husband while she steals from him.

What is the nature of the 2nd job? I don't get how in any way this is sustainable, unless this is a week's work, cash in hand? And I don't get why she told you, if your H is her boss?? Is she daft?

Your loyalty is to your husband. She is taking the piss. I wouldn't even be asking..!

Neighbour sounds a bit stoopid

FFS I'd definitely mention it to my DH. I'd speak to her too though.

She's ripping the piss, cheeky cow.

Tell your DH - he's your DH, you shouldn't be keeping secrets from him, especially not other people's secrets. You then can talk through with him what he's going to do about it.

Any normal person would assume if you tell something to one member of a married couple, chances are they are going to tell the other person. If she doesn't get that this is how most normal couples work then she's not only a fraud and cheat but a fuckwit.

Tell your DH.

None of your business, your husband is her boss (ultimately ) not you. If she is having inappropriate sick leave then it is down to him, as her ultimate boss to do his job and notice this.

Yes she is taking the piss, if she is getting sick pay and working a second job, IF you are sure that is the situation. To be frank, this doesn't make sense

Well, if it were me I would be likely to just casually say to my husband - it is odd, but I am sure X told me she has a new job.

That way you are not accusing her of anything, and if your husband thinks it is appropriate he has the information he needs to take it further.