My mother!!!! She phones me - "what are you doing" here we go.......... when ever she phones and asks that, i just know something is wrong.
Shes 75, has medical condition but actually pretty fit fitter than me , likes to think she is independant but isnt. Has huge dog (long story), has fallen over today hurt herself a bit i think.
So instead of calling me and saying "oh, ive fallen over, i need to get shopping and the dog hasn't been out, would you mind helping me out" I would of course jump to help. As it is, she just WILL NOT BLOODY ASK.
Rather she drip feeds - "ive fallen over" - do you want DP to take you to hospital? "no dont be ridiculous"
"ive got to go to the town though, i need to buy gas" - oh, dont worry, i'll get it for you, "no no dont worry about it" (getting grumpy now) no, really, we are going to the town anyway (big fat lie) we'll get it.
"oh ok, well, ive got to take the dog horse out, poor thing hasnt been out" No, i'll take him out "no no, dont worry about it!" - no, it will be nice we can take him along the beach DD will like it "ok then"
Shes fallen over and hurt herself 
so i will help her of course i will, but sometimes i am just tempted to say ok when she tells me not worry about it. She is exasperating in the extreme. Just ask me, i will help, she does sooo much for me, helps us out financially, but does this awful guilt tripping shit when she needs help because she is so fucking stubborn.