to wonder if my OH will get me anything for Mother's Day???

[undercoverPrincess]

.... if I don't nag him into it, and then what's the point. I know biggest DCs have made me cards at school?

Why? Are you his mother?

No but they are too little and don't have money :-/

trois beat me to it

I don't understand why he would

If your kids have made you cards, surely that's enough?

God this is just the start of it.

Cue Mothers Day and thread after thread of complaints about OH not kissinh arse sufficiently for pushing child out of vag/ MIL asking for a card, tsk, tsk doesn't she know I'm the real mother now etc etc

He doesn't have to buy you anything. However - if he could prevent the DC bringing you breakfast in bed consisting of olives, capers and lettuce, that would be nice

Your OH really should not get you anything for Mothers Day. He is not your mother.

SO for mothers day your want a presnt you have nagged someone to get on behalf of yourchildren who are too small to understand what its all about?

Christ! I 'd Like to see a real drama go on in your world! one sniff of the postman with a wrong parcel and it would be an attack of the vapours and the smelling salts would come out!!

The only thing you can hint about is that he encourages the DCs to do something for you. He can help them make you breakfast in bed or something. But it has to be from them.

We are having MIL for lunch as my mum lives too far away, I just know I always get lovely presents when I hint but not if I don't.... I do nice photo cards etc for Father's day. I do agree once the kids are old enough it's down to them :)

Why don't you say what you want and let him arrange it.

I want a slap up afternoon tea and will arrange it myself and then stuff my face and congratulate myself on being a mother ( I might invite DP and the kids if feeling generous)

Creepy or at least distract them while you stuff it under the covers

I think DPs/DHs have other days to 'spoil' each other...like Valentine's day and Birthdays, Christmas etc...

Mother's day should be kept for spoiling our Mums and for receiving home made cards from our kids when they're old enough to make them.

Really it's just more commercial shite anyway and we should all be spoiling each other now and then...without being told to on a certain day.

Yes, where does it end? My sister sends Fathers day cards to our Dad from her DC. Every year and it always reminds me of the Joseph Fritzel case

I actually blame OH for spoiling me on my first mother's day with DC1 and then doing nothing the year after, no consistency, and I wasn't really expecting anything the first year tbh....

Lol @creepy and the capers breakfast :o

My first Mothers Day this year (as a mother I mean, am not a G &T wierdly using my mothers laptop to post in AIBU) and it falls on DP's birthday, which he happens to share with my DSis. How's my luck. DD was born on Fathers Day last year btw.
stamps feet and yells "NOT FAIR"
I am not expecting much to be honest :(

I will be thoroughly ignoring DP on mothers day, her first as a mother, I'm glad it has the MN seal of approval.

Well from that angle it sounds a bit crap I have to say.

Yeah no need to ignore her Fred...talking is allowed

You do get Valentine's Day and your anniversary to celebrate your love for each other BUT..Mother's Day, in my opinion, is about you being celebrated for being a good mum..by your kids and by the father of your kids!! Men aren't always emotionally intelligent..Let him know what you want!

Well, OP, I'm hoping my dp will do something to recognise my first mother's day too, as dd is too little. So I don't think YABU. Being a mother is a big deal and I'd love what I do to be recognised. I got him a little present for father's day (a photo cup of dd fo his office), but I'd be happy with a card or meal cooked for me. I know the argument that it should be recognised all year, but that never seems to happen, so I'd love to do something on mother's day.

However, like you there's a good chance that he won't think of it if I don't remind him, but reminding him sounds a bit naggy/grabby. I think I'm going to organise something myself e.g. going for a walk as a family or similar.

Of course you are not being unreasonable. It's nice to have a little card and some flowers or whatever when your children are too young to have a hand in it. Of course, some of the miserable gits on here will disagree and make you out to be some spoilt harpy.

WorraLiberty so I have to actually talk to her? strewth!

If you're never recognised outside mothers day, then perhaps you should expect something, but that seems pretty crap to me.

YABU

Unless you are also his mother.

In which case mothers day is the least of your problems.