to tell DH I'm leaving potty training to him

[shotinfoot]

This is a rant, not a marriage crisis. Normally DH is an alright sort.

DS2 is just over 3. DH has made several comments recently that DS2 should be potty trained by now has DS1 was at 2.5.

I agree. The thing is, I work 3 days a week and DS2 is at pre-school so it makes it very difficult to have a good long stretch. I have Fridays off so have a 3 day stretch at the weekend.

Decided today was D-Day. DS2 reluctant to wear pants or trousers so I asked DH to take DS1 to school so I could stay at home with DS2 without the trauma of persuading him to get dressed first thing. DH said he couldn't (even though he left the house 5 minutes before we did).

Now tomorrow DS1 has sports in the morning and a party in the afternoon and DH wants me to take to him and DS2 has he has things to do. I can't realistically take DS2 to a soft play place for 2 hours in the middle of the day on the second day of potty training without a pull-up (which I don't want to do as I've told DS2 we don't have any left).

AIBU to think that potty training is impossible without inconveniencing DH at least slightly and he should shut the f*@k up about it if he isn't prepared to do anything to help.

and breathe.

Have a . Feel better now?

YANBU one slight bit. Tell your DH exactly what you said here - if he's so concerned about potty training then he can do it his own bloody self.
It'll become clear to you when your DS is really ready. It sounds like it's a bit too early yet, don't push it for the time being, all children learn at their own pace.

I'm a fan of doing potties in warm weather, you can let them wander around pantless more easily and the inevitable extra washing dries cheaply on the line rather than expensively in the tumble. Any chance you can put it off a couple more months with this argument to use on DH, and thus find time to create a window with holidays etc?

Thanks randommoment - I do [smile}.

I think physically he's ready. He knows when he's going to do a poo or a wee, his verbal skills are very good etc. I think he's just quite stubborn. I'm going to give it a couple of days and see how we go. Then it's back to pull ups.

I don't want to send him to pre-school if he still hasn't got a clue - but I think soft-play birthday parties are probably a bridge too far!

And of course he should be helping!

Also I'm really sick of changing dirty nappies - which are getting worse as they get bigger .

Oops oodles of x-posting! Best of luck shot.

Actually, DH 'doesn't do' dirty nappies if he can help it so I might just tell him it's none of his business

Tell him to do it next weekend when you have things to do and he'll have both children on his own all day.