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To be fed up with being let down by people?

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PalmaRossa · 09/03/2012 12:55

A friend invited me to lunch at hers the other week; then the day before, she cancelled. She regularly does this. Invites me to hers or to meet up elsewhere with the DCs and then cancels, sometimes when we're actually in the car going over hers. Yet on her FB she is out and about, posting statuses about going to Costa coffee with X, or on nights out with Y. She doesn't seem to respect me in the same way and mucks me around.

This weekend we were meant to be going to stay with some friends for the weekend, and yes they've cancelled too, as they frequently do with us. Again they too have plenty of time for other friends and are always out and about but mess us around. Their excuse for this weekend? We want to get the garden done as the weather will be nice. And they were the ones that suggested we went there.

I'm fed up with being let down by people.

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dreamingbohemian · 09/03/2012 14:14

maybenow good advice there -- I do have some flaky friends still, I no longer try to make specific plans with them but rather invite them along to things I'm doing anyway. That way I'm still being sociable, sometimes they do show up and we have a nice time, but it's no bother if they don't come by.

ENormaSnob · 09/03/2012 14:16

I have just ditched a long standing friend for similar offences.

She fucked me about every time we arranged something. Basically felt like she thought my time wasn't as important as hers.

With 3 kids and a demanding job I beg to differ.

So she can get to fuck now because I'd had enough.

googlyeyes · 09/03/2012 19:32

This has happened to me a lot too, kinda glad I'm not the only one!

What I'd like to know though is if there really is ever a way to express your displeasure without seemingly extremely passive aggressive and/ or just making them very defensive and angry.

No one likes it when the worm turns!

PalmaRossa · 09/03/2012 20:33

I often wonder that too; I end up getting angry if I ever have to confront anyone.

BTW I didn't get a reply to my email from the friends we were meant to be seeing this weekend. Speaks volumes really doesn't it. They probably never really cared about our feelings anyway.

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