Men who can't/won't cook

[Franziska]

Am I unreasonable to think there's something strange about men who either can't or won't cook (and in many cases are actually supported in this by their OHs)?

I have a personal dog in this fight, my brother. As far as I can tell, he has never cooked a meal in his life, having lived at home until he was 21, and then moved with his DP. He's now 33, and he says he doesn't cook, and he says jokingly, that when has has tried to chop a vegetable, his partner will take over. The result is he doesn't cook.

I can see this might make sense especially when you have SAHMs, etc, but in his case, his partner works quite long hours (and weekends), but as a result, it means he won't go home and start the meal, they have to wait until his partner is home.

Is this strange? Am I just being unreasonable?

YANBU. I understand that some PEOPLE (it's not just men) might never be great chefs, but I do think all adults should be able to fling something resembling a meal together, even if it's really basic

He doesn't know what he's missing. Some men see cooking as a chore when it can easily be a pleasure. He sounds lazy.

I'd let him starve!

My DH is one of these men & I'm an enabled. He is capable & does step up sometimes, hecooks bacon & egg muffins every sat morning & does a mean sausage & onion buttie! He is also capable of k coking something together for dd (2) if I'm ill.

His mother never cooks & his father never taught him.

On the other Hand when it's my birthday, mother's day or the like he can whip up a nice bit of seabass, squid, etc. He will slavishly follow the recipe which takes ages & costs a fortune. He just doesn't have the confidence.

Thing is, I can put up a shelf, but it'll take me fucking ages & won't be that good. I can paint, but my 'cutting in' is extremely slapdash.

We each play to our strengths rather than doubling up on everything. I'm a sahm now, but for 8 years of cohabitation I wasn't & cooking was still 98% my job.

YABU if you don't like it, don't marry one. Otherwise, it's none of your business really.