History is friend of mine has looked after my dc once a week. Our dds were in same class and it seemed a good idea. She was also looking after some other dc. I paid her obviously. This went on for a while. Girls had a minor disagreement and dd was uninvited to her dd's birthday party (by text, day before). I tried to find out if dd had done anything but no, they'd just had an average minor falling out. I asked if she wished to continue with the dc, I was changing days and my main, official childminder would become full the day I gave up. She said yes, she wanted to, and confirmed when position explained. All seemed well and good. However she started to make excuses always by text and at short notice. Then she said she'd continue til I could find something else. After the lastest text I managed to get them back into childcare and texted her to confirm she did not need to have them any more. She replied with a ? and so I explained, she then replied to say the ? was because she did not know who I was and I obv had the wrong number! am totally confused. Seems she has the arse. Why?