in deleting this 'friend' from fb and real life....

[ThatVikRinA22]

i met a woman in training for the police who didnt last in the job as she was diagnosed with having specific learning disabilities (the same ones that my DS has) and it became apparent she couldnt manage, and ended up leaving after a number of unfortunate incidents in which she was involved....)

she was the butt of a lot of class jokes which used to really upset me, and i had helped her throughout the training period and befriended her, so i stayed in touch via facebook ever since.

she is easily led and has gone and got her self a boyfriend, who is a raving racist and has links to the BNP and other right wing groups.

slowly ive noticed more and more worrying things being linked by her on facebook, so today i commented that i cannot, and do not want to be associated with anyone who has extremist views, she tried to defend the shite she was linking and so i told her i would have to delete her and then did so.

She has text me trying to defend this stuff.
i have been perfectly honest and explained why i cannot be associated with this stuff (apart from the fact it sickens me it is obviously frowned upon professionally!)

she had just told me last week that she was wanting to apply for the police again (which i told her i thought was a bad idea apart from the fact its doubtful she would get in after the palava last time - she left under a bit of a black cloud shall we say....)

would it now be unreasonable to call time on this "friendship" and leave her to it with the raving loon BF....

i think, because i have a son with similar difficulties, i have always felt a little responsible?? or maybe a little sorry for her, and her lack of social skills meant she had very few friends....i have tried to point out that most of the stuff she is linking on fb is made up propaganda for the BNP but she isnt having it....she thinks this guy is intelligent and well read, taken time to read the Quran etc etc....what im saying is falling on deaf ears.

is it now unreasonable to run for the hills and leave her to it? i feel mean but im not going to change her mind about this stuff....

Yanbu. I deleted someone for constantly raving about how wonderful David Cameron is

In all seriousness I wouldn't want that sort of thing flashing up on my news feed at all. It's vile and, hopefully by taking a stand, she may come to realise this.

I got to the BNP part and have decided that on that alone YANBU.

O/T I find it quite worry that someone with LDs, who is the butt of class jokes in training and is easily led even got past the first round of interviews for police training.

she got through because she presented well, high IQ, and had previously had a role that looked on paper like she would be a good candidate.

it was only whilst in training that the problems came to light and it was the police that had her assessed and diagnosed by a psychologist - if that hadnt happened she wouldnt have got through basic training - which in hindsight, she shouldnt have done.

the recruitment process is very rigorous and i dont think this happens very often to be fair, it took 2 years to pass all the interviews, tests, etc. She was just a bit of a one off i think!