Please bear with me as this is a bit rambly and very childish.
I went out for supper last week with a group of "friends". During the meal they were behaving atrociously - throwing stuff around, swearing very loudly, generally being oiks - and I asked them to stop. One of them responded that he'd put my head on the grill thing on the table! I was a bit pissed at the time, and got quite upset about this. I absented myself from the table and had a little cry in the loo, then went back and said to DH that I was going to leave as I didn't want to create a scene, but I wasn't going to be around behaviour like that or be spoken to as I was. I took my coat and then left the building just as the main courses arrived at the table.
By the time I had got home (about 15 minutes) one of the party had posted on facebook that I had left without paying the bill, and that I was due the "scabber of the year" award. Now I did leave without paying, but I was very upset at the time, and I also left without eating. Nobody has mentioned my share of the bill or has asked for anything from me, nor have they been bothered about how upset I was. I've also been told from other people there that the rude "friends" demolished mine and DH's meals.
DH has now got his knickers in a twist about paying the bill, and I don't really want to. I accept that we ordered food so should pay for it, but given that I wasn't given the opportunity to pay, and was slagged off on facebook before I had the chance to sort out paying my share, I feel a bit backed into a corner. I feel like my integrity has been called into question, and if I pay it'll be said I've only done it because I was embarrassed, and I also highly doubt that any apology or retraction would be made regarding the original slight. I still don't know how much is due and who to.
As I said, it's very childish, but would I be terribly unreasonable if I didn't pay?