to think he texts a female friends too much?!

[Ginabambina]

Hi everyone,
Me and my DH have recently become friends with a couple i know through work. The female in the relationship is a bit like me, gets on better with men than woman, is a bit of a tomboy and loves family. However ever since she's got to know my husband on facebook and via text, she is constantly texting, commenting (inappropiately) on our statuses and generally being, if I'm honest, a nuisance. I must get a few texts a day off her saying i could go round if I'm lonely (sorry DH works shifts so I am on my own a lot) and we should meet up and do this and do that every weekend, however, I'm not that lonely! I have a big family, a house to run (no kids though) and plenty to do on a weekend and I feel she's being a bit too intense and constantly texting, ringing and facebooking my DH is just getting me down. Don't get me wrong, i would like to meet up with her on a weekend to go for coffee or shopping but all she talks about is my husband, or what he's doing or how her and her mum have been bullying him on facebook - gets annoying after 10 minutes.

I've spoken to both of them about it and hubby does ignore her or tell her we're out or spending time alone just so she doesn't text or call, but it's really getting me down and I'm scared this friendship will spiral out of control. My hormones are everywhere at the minute, I've just come off the injection after nearly 7 years, my work is crap and now this all on top of TTC!

If I'm being crazy let me know, in fact I know I am being crazy just need someone impartial to tell me so!! :o

I think you appear confused...you say "We've become friends with this couple" and yet you obviously don't like the woman or want to spend any time with her.

Who is friends with who here? Your DH and her? Your DH and her Dh? None of you?

you are NOT beong crazy. this is not appropriate and frankly, she is NOT your friend and she clearly has an almost not-appropriate yen for your DH

every day one here there are threads about people who have been "dumped by their mates" , read and learn!!!!

Looks it a recent friendship, and its not working out

start to decide how to reduce time, and get your DH onside

sorry being very frank here, bit if a new friendship is giving this much grief, it aint worth it

TRIM TRIM TRIM

and discuss with your DH, and he must be onside with you here

You are allowed to choose your friends :) so you if you find this woman overwhelming, then start distancing yourself from her. Politely decline all invitations, and ignore inappropriate/annoying messages. Make your Facebooks less visible to her and her husband. If both you and your husband do this I would hope she would lose interest eventually! Good luck.

thanks guys i knew i could count on you!

AwkwardMary - i did like her at first - i have only known her a couple of months, i don't have many friends in my area so it was nice to make a new one.
I know the bloke through work - get on with him great have a laugh, bit of banter, got to know his partner through facebook and we have met up once she was lovely, now though its got to the stage where I do want to take a step back and re-evaluate.
As Everlong said - i like having friends as much as the next person but i've just got rid of one stalker (longer story) i don't need another!

Anyway rant over - thanks for the advice i get to see hubby properly tonight for the first time in 4 days so i don't really want to bring it up but i think hes getting bored of being contacted constantly as well.

name change fail?

haha Chipsplease - someone very kindly told me that because of my name it may remind people of SWMNBN so i thought i had better change it so i could make friends!

Aww @ changing your name to make friends that's sweet. :)
Right ok, my advice would be to end this friendship. sounds like she has her eye on your DH.

thanks loopylou - i think so too. I have always got on better with guys than girls (unless it's you lovely lot) buti always know when to back off and think have i gone to far? i have lost friends being on both sides of this very wobbly fence and its horrible but I'm taking the moral high ground and am just going to tell her to back off

YANBU - I think you should 'phase her out' as demonstrated in an episode of Friends....

What does SWMNBN refer to?

i love friends - will watch that episode so i do it right :)
SWMNBN is Gina Ford apparently - took a poster who knew what they were going on about to tell me. It was a cryptic message I got and took about an hour to understand!

How very odd. Personally I'd have told the PM'er to fuck right off. Why didn't you?

Do yourself a massive favour and take her off your FB friends and off your dh's and get her out of your life!

And agree that whoever pm'd you about your first name was being very out of order! Who was it?! Tell them to mind their own, interfering whotsit!

haha i can't remember who it was to be honest and to make it worse it was on a thread! argh i'm so bad at this making friends thing, i'm 23 surely it should be easier now i'm not in high school?!

well new development - so called friends partner (my work colleague) has said they have invited him to theirs when i'm away next weekend at a hen do.

Is he going to Go? Really Think that you both need to think twice about remaining friends with this couple. She is coming onto him, she is not a mate. There is a line mates don't cross - she crossed it. Tell your man not to reply to het messages. Phase her out! She is dangerous!

He isn't going to go and I don't think he ever was. I've ignored her texts today and even told her partner I wasn't impressed. Luckily he realised that she'd overstepped that invisible boundary which makes me feel better!
Thanks for the advice and support everyone, nice to know I'm not alone! X

Well done you for saying something. Lifes difficult enough without people trying to steal your husband.