To think DH is an absolute tool

[catgirl1976]

DH is in the bath. I am downstairs looking after DS and, having just given him his bath, dressing him.

DS (14 weeks) decides to have an absolute melt-down of nuclear proportions as he has taken an apparant extreme dislike to being dressed. He is bright red and screaming those curdling screaming howls - you know - the really bad ones.

I am trying to calm him down, cuddling him, shushing him, rocking him etc........then over his screams, I hear DH shouting my name at the top of his voice from his bubble bath.

Conflicted, I place melt-down boy on his mat and race up the stairs to see what is wrong with DH

"What DH?" says I, slightly stressed

"What are you doing to DS" says, really narkily

WTAF does he think I'm doing? Torturing him?

DS is a baby. Sometimes he has little meltdowns. Does he think I caused it or does he think I am just drinking wine and laughing whilst he cries? I really feel like he is having a go a my parenting.......from a fucking lovely warm bubble bath.

And to be screaming my name and dragging me up the stairs to tell him that DS is having a melt down when a) he can hear that and b) I need to be with DS calming him down just takes the

Sorry, but I'm laughing a bit. It's something my husband would do!

Yes, you're obviously torturing the child. What else would you be doing?

Have some and .

I hope your child has calmed down and you've told your husband what a doily he's being!

:) thanks Tee both DS and I have calmed down.....DH is still luxuruating in his bath and the warm glow of superior parenting :)

I love him to bits but honestly

I'd love some wine. Have been pregnant and now bf for what feels like years :) I might have a little glass tonight

Oops, that should have been !

Glad things are calming. Have a little glass. Won't hurt anything!

mmmmmmm wine :)

and ty for the flowers

You should have handed DS to DH while he was in the bath and gone out.

Lol, sorry. Are you sure it wasn't a (misjudged) joke designed to diffuse the situation?

Indeed a grade A tool.

Or replied "chinese burns" totally deadpan

YANBU
What a dick!

My sons das used to do this when we were together. In the end I told him I was doing baby yoga with him. Stopped after hearing that a few times

Liking the ideas of going out or saying "chinese burns"

Wish I'd been that on the ball at the time :)

I must admit I have sometimes said something line this to dh.

Did you say it from the comfort of a relaxing bubble bath memoo

because that's just salt in the wound :)

Divorce the bastard lol.

Think it is normal, my dc didn't make a sound when dh was home but now and again meltdown would happen and he used to ask me the same

Yes you're right, the bubble bath makes it worse. You have ruined his relaxing bath.
BTW OP if you're just bf (I assume with a 14wo you're not pg) I'd definitely have a glass of wine or two. I was utterly paranoid when pg, only drank in minute amounts after 20 weeks but when just bf, I relaxed a hell of a lot more (starting with the post-delivery champagne :o) Your choice obviously., but don't assume it's the same as being pg wrt drinking.

I am SO having one tonight stealth

We are going out for a meal - ambitious with a nuclear DS and the first evening meal we have been out for since he was born.

Since I obvioulsy just upset him, DH can deal with him whilst I enjoy my food and some cold white wine :) )

ooh enjoy yourself. When we went out for our first meal with DS without other family (i.e. just the 3 of us) he was about 18m. We were not expecting it ot be relaxing, but it was as DS was chatted to and entertained while we were eating by a couple on the table next to us (i'd like to point out they were not eating!). Some of what they were saying sparked something in my brain, and I later figured out they were the mum and DP of an MNer on my antenatal thread :o Hope you are as liucky

Men can be such dicks sometimes; mine gets told regularly to sleep with one eye open!

Was trying to read my DH the chinese burns comment but was laughing so much I couldn't actually get the words out. DS2 was doing the blood curdling screams thing earlier and i did ask DH what he was doing to him but in my defence DH has been soooo smug today as DS2 has been refusing all feeds and fed for him all day without a problem!

am so proud of DS - 14 weeks old and he behaves like an angel through 3 courses

Takes after his mum you see :)

What a good little boy :)

As for DH - I'd have thrown the hairdryer in the bath

But honestly, they do say the stupidest things at the stupidest times!!