To go to bed instead

[Midnightmoon]

This is mostly a whine sorry.
I'm full of cold and I've been throwing up during the day. It's just been me and the 3Dcs between 4:30 this morning and 5:30 this afternoon as Dh has been working. I've been trying to keep the Dcs happy all day, but I couldn't take them out anywhere and it's been raining so they couldn't go in the garden. So Ds is bouncing off the walls and Dd1 is getting annoyed with him cause they have had to be in the same space all day and they are both just really diffrent. SiL rang yesterday asking if she could come up later tonight for a drink and a chat. Dh said he thought that would be okay.
But I really just want to sleep, I don't get much anyway cause Dd2 is up throughout the night. SiL isn't coming till 11 tonight cause she wanted to come after her Dc's have gone to bed.
I rang Dh at lunch and told him that I wasn't really up to her coming and could he either go out with her and him or cancel. He said I was making a big deal of nothing and didn't bother but since he has come home and seen how pale and gross ill I look and has decided that I was right but I'd have to call SiL as its me she wants to gossip too. But chances are it will cause a row.
So AIBU?

YANBU, go to bed it sounds like you need the rest. Let DH deal with the phone call.

I would be pissed off with someone wanting to come visiting at 11pm even if was in perfect health!!

Why on earth is she coming round so late...

YANBU you are ill and have looked after children all day. I would have gone to bed at 6.30pm if it was me.

You are I'll and need to go to bed. Text your SIL to tell her you're really unwell and going to bed and say will call tomorrow. Why would she want to come round and catch what you've got?

YANBU!

What shebird said

Yanbu

She is coming round so late because she wanted her Dcs to be in bed so her Dp didn't have to look after them. Her Dcs are 6 and 9 they don't have a bedtime on weekends so she just waits until the fall asleep.

Good point shebird

I find it mind-boggling that anyone with children would think 11 pm was a great time to pop round for a chat, let alone to see someone who's been on the go since dawn (double let alone to see someone who's ill!). Apart from anything else, the bedtime routine doesn't exactly sound onerous for her DP to deal with in any case.

Utterly ridiculous that you should be entertaining, or, frankly, that you should have to call to cancel. It's his sister, he refused to believe you were ill - let him bloody well deal with it.

Hope you feel better soon.

:o
thanks tribpot.
I shall just go to bed and let him deal with me thinks

Why would it cause a row? Just text her saying you wouldn't want her to catch what you have and are likely to fall asleep after one drink.

She is your family and should put your health over gossip!

Hope you feel better soon.

It would cause a row cause she doesn't like it when plans get canceled

If someone came round here at 11pm they would be lucky to find me awake. She should have either "trusted" her partner to get 2 children to bed and nipped round at a reasonable time or come another time

Well that's just tough luck for her. Get to bed.

Like others, I wouldn't entertain the idea of someone coming round at 11 when I was fit and well .
Even if she were coming at a normal time, I'd still phone and say "Sorry, I'm really not feeling well, we'll either have to rearrange for another time, or you'll just have to have a quiet drink with dh, as I'll be in bed by 7 tonight." Just stated as fact, nothing to question.

Hope you did get to bed and feel better today, OP!

Thanks all
I went to bed and Dh called her and spoke to her. :o