I've known my friend for about 3 years and she has always been the type to get really obsessed with stuff. First one I can remember was that she became obsessed with these bead things that little girls make for each other. She'd seen some girls passing them around in the playground and insisted that her own DD have a go at making one. Well she did but then friend decided to "help" her and made a load more. The DD then became bored of it but friend became obsessed and insisted the poor lass spend hours making them with her until at point I went to their house and these beads were all over the living room floor, they'd made so many, one for each girl in the year (around 45 kids) as well as relatives etc and friend had stayed up until early hours of the morning doing them. By the end of it the DD hated the bloody things and it caused no end of arguments in their house.
This lasted for a couple of months and then the world cup started. Friend became obsessed with football and even bought a full England kit for herself (and wore it to school and to shops etc) and bought the kids full England kids and insisted on them wearing them constantly. She had the football on the TV constantly, decorated the house in England stuff and again forced the kids to participate in the obsession. This went on for ages because after the world cup finished, she moved her obsession on to Middlesbrough and again bought the entire kit for herself and the kids ad obsessed over it constantly.
Then after this blew over she moved onto online poker. She started playing it constantly, she'd take the kids to school and then come home and literally play it all day until 3pm when she had to pick them up again. She'd then play it all night, sometimes insisting that the kids watch her, sometimes they didn't get any dinner until gone 8pm and then it would sometimes only be a sandwich as she was too busy on poker. This lasted AGES and I almost lost contact with her because it was all she would talk about.
Anyway I saw her one time in Asda and she mentioned her DD had taken up gymnastics. Well - this became another obsession. She insisted her DD go 5 nights a week, then she joined herself, then she did teaching courses and began teaching at the gymnastics, she wouldn't let her DD quit when she began to hate it (probably because she'd come home from a 3 hour lesson and then be forced to perform what she'd learnt in the living room for 2 hours!) and she went on and on and on about it.
Her DD is now 13 and practically hates her mother. She does what she can to avoid her and takes no interest in anything at all, probably because she knows the minute she does, her mother will latch on to it and become obsessed.
My friend is very volatile when confronted so if I say anything it will probably spell the end of our friendship but Im concerned about the DD. AIBU to let friend know that her obsessive ways are probably what is causing her DD to distance herself from her??