To think I should talk to DW about housework

[quirkymale]

So Im a DH who has 2 DD's under 5. Both me and DW work.

Right now we seem to be arguing about almost everything. Money is tough, the girls are getting to be quite a handful and stress it at its peak.

Im by no means looking for father of the year but I have always been extremely involved with the kids and the housework. After reading a number of the threads on here it seems that as a male Im in a bit the minority that seem to help out with the household, but lately I feel my DW is taking me for granted.

I cook nearly all the meals, bath and bed both of our children and do all the household chores. My DW decides to watch television and chat to family on the phone while I have to do everything else.

We tend to argue about a number of things but it boils down to me being under appreciated.

Its got to the stage where I cant stand her lazyiness and Im not sure how much I can go on with it all anymore. She has an important portfolio due in work in 2-3weeks and insists she has any time away from work to herslef because she is "stressed".

Any thoughts?

The more I read this, the more I find investing in a new patio appealing

I think it is completely unfair when one partner is stuck doing everything and the other downs tools after their paid job ends. It's just not fair. two people working full time outside the home should come home and take care of everything 50/50. It is just not fair of one to take the piss like this. I think you need to tell her that you have had enough of this and you want things to be more equal.

phew, that was a relief to come across

PlateCarrier, are you the DW in question?

Exactly what I was thinking itsok.

OK for the facts we haven't got.

OP - how many hours of paid work pw do you do and are you the main earner or is DW. Do you have a long and difficult journey or are you both the same. Does one of you have lots of holiday.

I say that because although I work full time I work locally and I am far from the main breadwinner. I have always done all the organising for the dc (teenagers now), organised the house, done all the shopping - food, presents, Xmas, organise holidays and decorators, etc. DH OTH has a tiresome journey, works 12 hour days and earns 10 x my salary. He does the garden because he likes it, the outside paintwork because I nag him to and is in charge of recycling - eco things are a bit of a hobby with him.

For us it works - you need to find a way that works for you and dw.