To fancy other men sometimes?

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is it normal to fancy men other than your partner? I do all the time but my friend says she never does. I have been stuck in a room basically for the last 2 weeks with work and today I found myself fancying one of the men there. He is not good looking, but is good at his job, clever, charming and arrogant (arrogance can aggravate and turn me on at the same time). At the same time I noticed a ring on his finger and it got me to thinking how if other women saw my dh perform for a week they would also fancy him (dh is also charming and arrogant) so given my dh has been away for a week it's probably a good thing cos I'll appreciate him when he gets back! So do you fancy other people?
On a side point, I've just finished my period and probably close to ovulation right now - given I hadn't noticed this guy in that way for the past 2 weeks maybe it's all just biological and a woman just gets more sexual at certain times of the month...

Well of course not; you're in a relationship, not DEAD.

Your friend is either lying or very, ummm, unusually single-minded.

A crush is rather fun, as long as it goes absolutely nowhere.

I love a 'crush'....butterflies in the stomach and all that.

I've not had a crush in years

I think the point about your cycle is spot on, re assess in a weeks time and I'm sure you will conclude that the bloke is a navel gazing prick

Oh Butterfly, have you considered revisiting old crushes? I'm currently in the throes of a New Kids On The Block fever

butterfly neither have I so you are not alone

Probably normal?

but personally I only have the hots for dh.

I think it's normal. I was with my ex for 3 years and in that time I developed a crush on two people, despite being incredibly head over heels for my ex. Nothing happened, they never even knew about it, but it put a spring in my step all the same. Ex's best friend did try to get me into bed but despite him being gorgeous, he was a shallow commitment phobe and I felt pity for him, not lust.

Since being with my bf as of last April, nobody is good enough. He has a very hot best friend too, but nobody has the full package like my bf [swoon]

I think it's normal, and that you're spot on about ovulation. I've just started getting periods again after breastfeeding. Hoo boy, can I tell the difference!!

As long as it's just a little bit of window shopping, I don't see the harm. I wouldn't mind old faithful husband doing the same.

I spent last week drooling over a firefighter who I infrequently work with. DH just takes the piss and doesn't care. Because he knows there is no way I would ever cheat on him.

I don't get crushes. I can appreciaze another man's looks/personality/achievements but I don't fancy them or get butterflies. DP is the only one to do that to me, honestly.

It's normal to fancy, but not all the time or never.

Btw I read a study that showed women in nightclubs showed more flesh at ovulation time.

I do. As I see it, the rules are simple, tell no one irl, especially not dh and don't get over excited about it all. Obviously don't act on it.

I see people I think are attractive and mention things like that to my dh and my friends. It doesnt matter and I dont care if DH says people are attractive/fit to

Ok seems like both me and my friend are normal- some people have crushes, some people have adoring eyes only for their partner! Think molehillmountain's rules sound good to me. I'm sure dh finds other people attractive - he's pretty much said so - and I'm sure, knowing him, he has the occasional flirt. Not sure I want to know exactly who he fancies! Does this mean we're less into each other than those who have eyes only for each other? Friend is definitely the besotted one in her relationship.

You are married, not dead

I haven't fancied anyone since meeting my dh 14 years ago.
However, an electrician came to attend to my wires this week, and I practically had to pick my jaw off the floor when I opened the door. He is a 6 foot 5 God, and is coming again on Tuesday. My hair appointment on Monday is purely coincidental.