I am taking my 3 dcs on a large extended family holiday in April.
ExP, and father of youngest DC (4) asked yesterday if he could take 4yo away this year "on a plane, somewhere sunny"
ME: yes, give me plenty of notice
Ex: This is your notice
ME: No, I need dates, so I can arrange a trip at the same time with 10yo and 8yo
Ex: You're taking them away? Take 4yo too. Not fair if he misses out on a family holiday, you can't just take two out of three. If you are planning a family holiday, why wouldn't you take him too?!?
The conversation went on, I wondered how he could expect "my" two to stay at home waiting for 4yo to come back from a holiday with his dad, and not have the same number of holidays as their brother?
He has now said he won't take 4yo away, as I "want to split them up for a holiday"
Which scuppers our chances of an extra summer break, I was thinking of Euro Disney - I don't think I could cope taking 3 DCs abroad alone, and the 4yo will not be able to go on things his siblings can enjoy. I just thought ExP taking 4yo away would give us this opportunity we wouldn't normally have, and now he won't take him, it seems, to spite me.
I couldn't ASK him to have 4yo whilst I take the older ones to ED, he'd villify me for leaving lo out!