Dh and I have two dcs. Older dd is 3.
Have never really hit it off with fil. He has mental health problems (v bad depression) and a drink problem. For want of a better word, I find him weird. He writes odd poems and stories. Rambles on about nothing. He is completely egocentric and can be foul tempered, nasty and rude.
There is just .... Something about the way he is with dcs, especially dr, that unsettles me. He stares at her. I mean, a lot, as if noone else is there. He harasses her for hugs constantly. Follows her around in a quite needy, desperate way, saying, come and pull my beard! (which is long and straggly and occasionally has food in it!) Has grabbed her and staggered off with her at a party when drunk, she was crying for me but he kept going until I caught up and got him to put her down.
My instincts just tell me that I would never ever leave her alone with him, he just makes mebso uncomfortable. AIBU, should you trust your instincts at times like this?