I've had the shock of my life, recently, when my 'son' of 20 years showed up on my doorstep, begging to get to know me. Two decades ago, I had a one night stand with a bloke, who stood by me, and was even at hospital when the baby was born. But the baby wasn't mine! He was so red and small, and I'm 5'10 and very pale. I demanded a maternity test, and the bloke, probably panicked that he would be caught in a lie, left with the child.
I am now married but more tragedy ensued when DD, age 8, was born with one blue eye and one grey eye. Of course, we qualified for 8,000 quid a month benefits, and a mobility car, but all the snobby mums snub me at the school gate! What's worse, there's another child at the school with no visible disabilities (both his eyes are the same color!) who has 27 TA's! It costs the school so much money that they can't organize a uniform, and all the children have to wear loincloths. This might be a bit awkward for DD when she reaches secondary school. I asked on Mumsnet about private schools, but was told they are all hotbeds of racism, classicism, bullying and necrophilia.
With all this stress, I must admit I've been spending a lot of time down the pub, and having wee emotional affairs with some of the blokes I meet, (I mean, I have sex with them, but I get very emotional afterwards.) DH always takes me back, but lately he's been saying, "Love, you have to pull yourself together, for the sake of our marriage and DD. What can I do to help?"
So here's my question: AIBU to leave the bastard?