someone up there is enjoying shovelling salt into this wound.

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namechanged for this , please don't out me if you recognise.
I am currently ttc, been nearly 4 months and I know its not a massive amount of time, but I did maybe naively, think this would be very quick as my ds wasnt planned and it just sort of happened.
And just all around me everyone is having,had babies and quite possibly another relative is pregnant and I am happy for them , or I want to be.
Its just so cruel that constant reminder. I'm not jealous in a nasty way i'm just very numb and want to cry.

AIBU to ask MN how did people in this situation cope without going mad??
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Oh god I've been there. We lost DS1 when he was a tiny baby, I went back to work a few months later ... and my colleague promptly announced she was pregnant with twins

I don't have the answer to make it any easier, but I just wanted to offer you support and a hand hold.

Thinking about it, I used to focus on just breathing, smiling and getting to another day - and knowing, believing, that things would get better.

I think it's completely natural - I'm starting to go this way. I think a really good idea is to remember that you already have a ds - I am totally thankful for this. I know you are too. It's just worth remembering all the folk who are struggling to TTC 1...
Oh Abi - that's very very sad... :(

I feel bad now as I think the OP wanted cheering up, sorry - life WILL get better and you WILL be ok, secondary infertility is so so cruel, but keep going. Acupuncture works wonders (IMO!) and the ladies on the conception board are wonderful for helping you stay positive

What contraception was you using, as the hormone based ones can take a few months to leave your system. The worse one is the depo injection.

Good luck ttc and hope you get 2 blue lines soon

:( I know how you feel. DH and I have been ttc for about 4 years with no luck and constantly people we know are pregnant and having babies. Then today a relative announces she's pregnant! I've spent the afternoon crying :(

It's really hard. Sorry I'm rubbish, but I'm here to hold your hand

i burst into tears when my DSil announced she was pregnant. I had an 8 month old at the time who was IVF and we thought we were about to have to go through it all again. I felt terrible and apologised - i just felt (though didn't say) it was so unfair that she took 2 months to get pregnant and i needed help. she was lovely about it.

it's a very natural feeling.

(i did go on to conceive naturally the first month of trying for DC2 so it just goes to show you don't know what's around the corner)

as hard/idiotic/pointless it may sound, just try to remain positive.

good luck

I know how you feel op, I had a mmc near christmas and currently ttc, seems everyone is pregnant or having a baby. Literally I know of 5 pregnancies in rl, and 6 new babies. Its fucking hard.

And I am jealous, and it does hurt.

It took us a year to conceive DS2. DS1 was unplanned and a lot of people assumed it would be easy the second time round. We had questions from well meaning people and I started to go a bit mental probably, slightly obsessed by it all. It is natural if you really want a baby. But four months doesn't mean you won't succeed.

thankyou for the messages, I feel like I really need a way to take my mind off it, thats the best thing. I'm gonna leave this thread now thanyou so much for not flaming my wallowing .