too be mad at my friend for not coming?

[BornToShopForcedToWork]

Hi,
I invited my friend and her son for a weekend to London. She is on benefits and can't afford a trip from Germany to London so I paid everything for her. Flights for her and her son, extra luggage for the travel cot, the hotel and different sightseeing. She told me how much she is looking forward to the weekend etc. today I saw that she deleted me on Facebook and she doesn't answer the phone when I call her. Her mother didn't even know she wanted to come. I am very angry now as I have spent nearly 400£ and I can not get a refund. I am so mad and don't know what to do. AIBU or is she?

Fuck - what a gutter. I'd be very vexed myself, in your shoes.

In her shoes, the only thing I can think of is that she might be mortified at having a trip laid on for her, feels like a charity case, and can't face you to own up to it.

Or some other problem that is at this stage unknown.

I'd definitely want to know, but something tells me she'll blank you from here on in and you'll never know.

Ouch. Have a on me.

I think she's still coming and is dodging you because she wants a free holiday without having to see you. Cancel the hotel, flights and anything else you can, even if you can't get a refund.

when is this meant to be happening?

Just so you know you can get the taxes back on the tickets that you bought if no one flies ..... You should get at least some money that way, airlines have to refund that

I doubt that she comes on her own. She doesn't speak English. I will try and call Easyjet tomorrow. I hate wasting money! She just split up from her bf and he lives now in Berlin again. He is not abusive at all, as far as I know. They split up because he was lazy etc. I have spent so much money I could have spent on something else

I wonder if she has been made to delete you by her ex...maybe she is back with him but could not bring herself to admit this? Maybe she is ashamed to be back with him and does not want to leave him to visit you?

She could have deleted you out of shame.

I agree awkward. I think that sounds very likely.

You can transfer flights on easy jet,there are charges but it can be done.

May be worth having another chat with her mum, tell her you're concerned by her daughter's actions and see if she can shed any more light on it, perhaps contact her daughter for you?

He lives a nearly 10h train ride away and is working in Berlin now. So I don't think it's that. I want call her mother again. She will say what her daughter wants her to say.

Just because he lives in Berlin doesnt mean she has not got back together with him.

Okay, true but he has a girlfriend so I am not sure. Also he wouldn't mind I think of she would come. He would have nobody to complain about his 16 h a day playstation sessions.

I still haven't heard from her. I can not cancel the flights so I don't know how to claim back the taxes.

I think you are going to have to forget it. SHe has let you down....but personally I would call her Mother to check she is ok. I would worry something had happened to her.

I think she is fine. I can still read her Facebook updates. She spent last night with mates, won a bet etc.

When is she due to come Born? Have you got a mobile number you can text her on? How do you know her? Old friend/close friend?
Does seem very odd...

Have you called her?

How dare your friend do that to you?What a spineless cowbag.Can't even have the decency to call/apologise/offer to re pay the money.
So sorry OP that this has happened to you.Are you sure you cannot get a refund?Could you sell travel tickets/hotel on ebay or Gumtree?

You sound absolutely lovely, really great friend and your friend sounds like an ungrateful cow. At least you know her true colours, what a coward

she is obviously fine if she is posting updates on Facebook, totally agree with you jimmy