I have always wanted to live in a brand new house. I like a clean house, and everything neutral and in good order, and my ideal would be to live in a new house.
I feel like I've always compromised on what I want in the past; DH has always said an out and out 'No' so I've always gone along with what he wants. We bought a small house when we'd not been together long, quite an old, but small, house, which was quick to do up and we got it in good order. However we then needed a bigger house and with DH's refusal to buy a new one we bought the house we live in now, which is around 40 years old. We've lived here for 4 years now.
It was old fashioned when we moved in, although definitely ok to live in, however DH was adamant he wanted to do it up but what he has actually done is completely messed it up and it is worse than it was when we moved in, he's started so many jobs and not finished them. He decided on a whim 18 months ago one day to change the spindles in the bannisters, so he completely ripped off the stair carpet. 18 months later we still have bare, unvarnished spindles and no carpet. He insisted on knocking a wall down between the kitchen and dining room which has resulted in the downstairs of the house feeling very 'busy' and cluttered as there is nowhere separate to eat now. He decided on another whim one day to decorate our bedroom so he cut all the carpet back past the gripper bars, painted the walls, and pulled other parts of carpet up so now our bedroom, which although was previously in a cream shade and with a carpet not to our taste was ok, is a total fucking mess. He pulled the airing cupboard doors off with the intention of replacing them the next weekend and we had no airing cupboard doors for over a year. Basically what I'm trying to say is the house will never be done because as soon as one job is done he either rips something else apart and leaves it, or there will be another job that needs doing.
I am not good at DIY and to be honest I don't want to constantly have to do painting and things like that. It's just not my thing. Hence I want to live in a brand new house. Plus there is no way I can do things in the week with 2 year old DS, who won't nap, running around.
It's occurred to me though that I've always been the one to compromise, just because he's said 'no' why should I give up on what I want all the time? I think he thinks because he's the man he can have the final say on things. So I've actually said to him in the past few days that I want to move to a brand new house and I'm not willing to compromise on this one. If we moved, we would have a smaller house, which would probably be easier for housework etc tbh, plus our mortgage would be smaller. DH has said if it's a make or break thing then of course he will have to move, but thinks I'm being unreasonable but I've said I'm not being any more unreasonable than he is wanting to choose where we live and ripping the place apart at every opportunity.
AIBU?