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to have (attempted to) put my sister's DP in his place

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ShadowsCollideWithPeople · 29/02/2012 03:18

Okay, bit of background - my sister's DP is a gobby, opinionated little fecker. I have tried to like him, really, but at every 'family' meal (we do regular family dinners with my Mum, Dad, sisters and our partners), he has ruined the night by getting overly opinionated - and very aggressive with his opinions. Now, I have no complaint wrt to people being opinionated (my whole family are very forthcoming with our opinions, and very accepting of them), but he shouts everyone down, has no concept of appropriateness (eg, no political / religious debates over the dinner table), and has ruined every family night he has been at by yelling his opinions down the table, shutting down anyone who attempts to voice their thoughts, and generally being obnoxious.

He tries to be very 'I can't eat in Mc Donalds, loathe the media, hate American capitalism, etc, etc' (which I would respect, except that he does not live by that ethos, just mouths off about it, whilst eating a KFC). So, tonight, he posted a quote from a person who personifies everything he claims to hate on his FB. Except that the person was saying something that he agreed with. WIBU to point this out? I probably was, and childish. Although, he has responded to all his friends who agreed with him, but not me. Hmmmm.

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CaoNiMa · 29/02/2012 03:57

Do it. He sounds like an absolute arse.

plutocrap · 29/02/2012 05:04

Ha. Well done. It will be interesting to see whether he deletes your comment!

TheRealMrsHannigan · 29/02/2012 16:26

I did this alot with my SIL, who is over opinionatd but under educated on the subjects she spouted off about. I took great pleasure in pointing out some glaringly obvious points. Grin

Do let us know if/when he responds.

minimisschief · 29/02/2012 16:59

you could but then again pretty much everyone is hypocritical with their opinions

QuintessentialyHollow · 29/02/2012 17:02

Why do you all engage with him?

Why dont you just ignore him and change the topic?

RuleBritannia · 29/02/2012 17:32

Had he been drinking at the table? If so, that would be the reason he became louder and more objectionable - apart from his usual habits, of course.

ILoveToPost01 · 29/02/2012 17:42

He is a show off. Likes being the centre of attention. Stop giving him the attention he craves at dinner.

Malificence · 29/02/2012 19:32

I'd just prime everyone to roll their eyes and mercilessly take the piss ovr his head, we all do this with a member of my BIL's family, he's too thick to notice and it passes the time.

PooPooInMyToes · 29/02/2012 19:45

Is there a rule then about not discussing religion and politics at the dinner table?

ShadowsCollideWithPeople · 05/03/2012 23:43

So sorry, have been busy with college work and didn't get a chance to get back here until tonight. Hate not getting back to a thread I have started.

Cao, pluto, and TheRealMrs - he totally ignored me (on FB). I actually saw him on Sat morning, he was rather chilly towards me, he does not like his opinions being questioned.

Quint, we all have to engage, as my wee sister adores him, so he is at every family event (and shouts everyone down until they have no choice but to listen to him). My poor DP ends up sitting up next to him every time, as DP is diplomatic and good at diffusing situations. So he ends up babysitting the little fecker every time.

RuleBrit - he drinks a lot. My family all enjoy a good few glasses of wine when out for dinner, but the last night we were all out, he was on his fourth glass of wine, when we were all still on our first. When my sister tried to ask him to slow down a wee bit, he flew into a giant strop and necked almost bottle of wine, then said (very sarcastically) 'is that okay?' presumably to prove a point.

Mal, we have tried that, he doesn't notice just keeps banging on and on...

PooPoo, no, no rule about discussing politics and religion. However, in our family, we try to keep it away from the dinner table. When those topics have cropped up, sister's DP shouts everyone else down and will not listen to them.

The latest - he showed up for a family gathering on Sun with a friend in tow (now, random friends are always welcome in my folks' place, I have brought home many), but he had apparently crashed in this (female) friend's hotel room - his own flat being about 10 mins from where they were. Didn't tell my sister about this until after the fact, then showed up with this girl. Said girl spent the whole day scowling at us and sulking in the corner, and sister's DP was with her, sulking all day. My sister and this lovely boy are moving in together at the end of the month. Awesome.

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Starwisher · 06/03/2012 00:18

Tell him to get himself on mn he be like a pig in muck

pinkyredrose · 06/03/2012 08:19

He sounds like a catch Hmm

Shutupanddrive · 06/03/2012 08:22

I would delete him off Facebook altogether

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