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aibu to be in sole charge of the budget and the cash? dh wants more of a say as he says it demeanshim but i dont trust him. he is a lovely husband and great dad but he was bad with cash before and i dont trust him with money now. he hates it

Am not sure

If you treat him like a child who you give pocket money to then I can see how he feels

Has his behaviour not changed at all with money?

yes and no. hard to tell when he doesnt have to budget. i maybe spend more on my own incidentals than i give him without noticing

You can be in charge of the budget, when its agreed to. However, he should have a say in making of the budget.

It becomes controlling if only one person holds all the purse strings, decison-making, and doles it out. If it were the reverse, people would say that you were controlling.

YABU. How will he ever learn if you take complete control away from him. Sit down and work out the budgets with him, make sure all the bills, rent/mortgate etc. are covered by direct debits and then talk about how you will spend / save the rest between you.

Who earns the cash?