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AIBU?

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AIBU to buy a 4yr old makeup

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scuzy · 28/02/2012 17:11

my niece is turning 4 soon and was thinking of getting her this for her ..

www.toys.ie/Minnie-Mouse-Oh-My-Make-Up-Tote-!117058-prd.aspx?qwSessionID=e9ec04ae-10c3-4fd0-af71-e82bdb230fca

she is a real girly girl have seen her with painted nails before. loves her clothes and handbags. but its more from the mum's point of view would you be upset at your 4 yr old girl getting this as a present?

all thoughts and opinions appreciated

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WilsonFrickett · 28/02/2012 17:13

YABU imo. I would be binning that as soon as it was unwrapped. But I guess it's how your sis would feel about it that is more important.

purpleroses · 28/02/2012 17:13

I've never really counted painted nails as makeup and my DD (8) has hers done sometimes.

But I'd be if anyone bought her that. Lipstick on young girls is horrid imo.

civilfawlty · 28/02/2012 17:14

Ugh. Tasteless. And think of the mess...

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scuzy · 28/02/2012 17:15

ok so concensus is not to get it. thanks!! will try get something else. i guess having a boy am clueless. thanks for the replies though.

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Robinredboobs · 28/02/2012 17:15

Don't get it - hideous!

Pancakeflipper · 28/02/2012 17:15

Ask her mum first. I'd freak but my Aunt dragged me to a make up counter at House of Fraser when I was 17yrs old to make me discover mascara and eyeliner. So I am not the girl to ask.

Deafworm · 28/02/2012 17:16

This is a polarising issue, I think you need to ask you sister/sister in law, given that you've seen her nails painted I'd be inclined to think its probably an ok gift but worth checking. I wouldn't mind but know others would hate it.

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scuzy · 28/02/2012 17:17

thanks. ah there are so many other things i could get but dont want to upset her mum (sil). so not worth the risk. she might say ok just to not offend me and then bin it.

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HappyCamel · 28/02/2012 17:17

YABU, yuck. She's a child please don't teach her that she looks "better" or "more attractive" or more feminine with makeup. Let her find her confidence with her natural looks.

GavisconJunkie · 28/02/2012 17:18

I think YABU, I'd be furious. I suggest you check first.

cookiesnap · 28/02/2012 17:20

I would have binned it. Sorry! If you bought my 7 year old make-up, I would be secretly pleased. It is all she wants.

If she is four and girly, dressing-up clothes are good. My dd adored Disney shoes, handbags and accessories as well as the dresses (M&S Disney dresses are better quality and much cheaper than those from the Disney shop imo).

Sapphirefling · 28/02/2012 17:21

Straight in the bin here. Up until about aged 15.....

HappyCamel · 28/02/2012 17:22

She's turning four so she might like a trip to a petting farm or zoo. Some new books or DVDs. The stuff to make a little herb garden (pot, compost, seeds). A dressing up outfit. A horse riding lesson. A cookery lesson or a kids cookbook, chef hat and apron.

Floggingmolly · 28/02/2012 17:24

I wouldn't particularly like it, but I bet any four year old would. I wouldn't be furious though... and I certainly wouldn't put it in the bin.

TheCrunchUnderfoot · 28/02/2012 17:28

Hideous, sorry

Flatbread · 28/02/2012 17:29

I have to say, I think it is adorable. My niece would have loved something like this, even if her mum and all the adults would have disapproved

My dn used to make a little handbag out of a pencil case and put on nanna's lipstick before guests came because she saw my mum do that.

It was innocent and cute and even now, at 12, she is very particular about her clothes. At the same time, she is great at math, feisty and willing to stand her corner. She is definitely not a stereotype of a girly girl.

fullofregrets · 28/02/2012 17:34

I think it is cute. I'd maybe get it for a 6 or 7 year old though. 4 is still teeny. Although I bet they want proper make up by the time they are 7!

grumblinalong · 28/02/2012 17:35

I'd be gutted if dd got this as a present. I have repeatedly moaned stated that I don't want her to be covered in make up and objectifying/fixating herself on her looks. I have harped on so much that I heard someone the other day say 'minigrumblin doesn't do pink'

That's me though, if your neice's mum (?!) is someone who invests alot in her looks she probably won't be too bothered? Is the mum all nails and hairspray?

flibbertywidget · 28/02/2012 17:37

Definitely don't get it. My SIL (no kids) got my DD a makeup set for her 1st birthday (WTF?), it went to Oxfam, Plenty of time to trowel on the makeup when they are older,

Get her some Disney dress up stuff instead or a doll's head you can apply teh make up too/do the hair ?

grumblinalong · 28/02/2012 17:38

flibberty One? One year old? WTF indeed.

HettyKett · 28/02/2012 17:40

I would not be happy AT ALL if someone got that for my DD (who is 4). It would have to be binned lost immediately which would cause no end of fuss and have her demanding make up, which is something she has shown no interest in at all before.

arghmyear · 28/02/2012 17:43

Well.

I have a DD who is nearly 4. Hope you are my SIL . My DD would love that set and use it for hours. This is something that's totally of her choosing - I don't wear makeup, in fact I don't even own any so I am not showing her that an un-made up face is unacceptable or anything like that.

When her clothes were my choice, I went for brightly coloured leggings and tshirts. My DD was disgusted by my clothing choices and now chooses things for herself (under supervision). She mainly chooses dresses and pretty tops and a lot of it is pink. I myself wear plain clothes.

So what I'm saying is that for some 4yos it would be OK. It would be lovely for my nearly 4yo and it wouldn't go in the bin.

Check with the mum if you dare!

Mummy2FE · 28/02/2012 17:49

It wouldn't be a gift I would choose for a 4 year old that wasn't my own dd tbh- as makeup/ nails on little ones can divide opinion. This thread has demonstrated that.

That said, I'm sure the 4 year old herself would love the gift and the Minnie Mouse theme would be an added attraction.

If somebody bought a gift like this for my dd I wouldn't throw it in the bin or stop my 4 year old from using it- but it would only be sometimes and on special occasions.

My toddler same age, is super girly. She loves party/princess shoes, dress up, Disney handbags, beads and so on. Maybe something like that is a possibility instead.

nobodyspecial · 28/02/2012 17:57

My DD would love that - I, however wouldn't! I really hate make-up on little girls - it looks horrible.

My 4 year old DD also loves Disney Princesses. For her 4th birthday one of the things we got her was a Disney Princess playbook from ASDA. Its like a book with little princess and their pet figurines. She has played with those little figurines everyday since November (no lie!). I think something like dress up clothes and art sets would be more appropriate for a 4 year old. My DD also loves My Little Pony and making cakes - so maybe a children's baking set would be a good idea too. I would love it if someone gave DD a mini rolling pin with accessories! She would too!

ifeelloved · 28/02/2012 18:00

I would definitely bin the make up if someone bought that for dd's now and they are 8 and 5!

Why not speak to your sil an find out what your neice is into? Novel idea I know

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