To want to bribe the school stud to break up with my 14 yr old dd?

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o.k announced she is in a relationship to which i knew was inevitable; rather than push it underground we have oked her having a boyfriend but with conditions ,ie he is allowed to visit her here, with an adult in the house etc but she not to go to his house yet.

But even in the mere 4 weeks she has been with him i have heard he has gone out with a huge amount of girls, pressurized two girls into sleeping with him before her.Three teachers have told me that he is a horrible boy and he may be something to do with her school work going downhill fast. I did tell her i knew this. She was thinking of ending it- i was so happy i could have thrown a party to be informed by her couple hours later she will see him!!!How do reasonable parents deal with this please!

runningwilde Yes you may not want your kids to have sex at fourteen, but it's not a case of 'letting' them. Unless you keep them under 24 hour watch, they're going to have sex when they want to behind your back, and end up not telling you because they're scared of what you'll say because they know you disapprove.

Age doesn't necessarily constitute how ready you are - a 14 year old might be emotionally mature, in love and in a stable relationship, and consider themselves ready to have sex.

Anyway OP, your DD and her friends probably know his reputation, and since she has only been going out with him for a month she will probably realize her mistake and split up with him without your intervention.
Hey, it may not be a mistake anyway, maybe your DD might be the girl he changes for

Coconut - yea what you are Talking about sounds very strict and too much the other way!

I think I'll just lock my daughter away, and home school her then . Seriously though, I think the one thing that I will make sure I do with my girls is show them pics of my old boyfriends from school on facebook, and tell them how very very relieved I am that I didn't sleep with any of them/how much i regret sleeping with them cos they've turned out so badly...I am unashamedly just going to bring them up to believe that no-one is good enough for them. How I'll modify that belief when they're past their teens I don't know . For the OP, I think I'd just start pointing out flaws in this boy - spotty skin, greasy hair, overpowering aftershave (not yet met a teen boy where none of these apply) etc etc. Just plant a few doubts :)

When did I single you out sensual as being lax? Get over yourself

And I trust and respect my kids too thanks very much