This morning, DP got up a bit before ds (age4) and me. Ds and I were in living room and DP asked ds what he wanted for breakfast. Ds said 'nothing yet please'. Then DP said something else which we couldn't hear, so I went into kitchen and asked what he said. Without looking at me DP said 'I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to ds', I said 'oh, ok, but he doesn't want any breakfast yet'. DP clearly irritated said 'I KNOW that, god you're interfering'. Then I said, still trying to be pleasant 'have you had your breakfast yet?' He replied, not looking at me, 'why would I be making toast if I hadn't had breakfast?' I said it might have been for ds, so then, last attempt at being nice I said 'oh right, so what have you been doing this morning since you got up if you haven't had breakfast?' I was looking at him waiting for him to answer, after a few seconds he swung round to me saying 'will you STOP staring at me'. I said I wasn't staring, just waiting for an answer and something about how it would be nice if he were a little more civil. He replied that 'civility is boring'. I left it after that and have barely talked to him since, apart from telling him to piss off when he told me to 'cheer up for god's sake'. Now this might sound like a small incident but it's always like this, one day he's alright, the next he can barely be bothered to acknowledge me. He also doesn't like going on holiday so we haven't been on one for years. He doesn't like going out in the evening, so we hardly ever do that either. I'm a SAHM, so don't earn. We don't have a joint account, the agreement is that he puts money into my account monthly, except he doesn't unless i remind him and then he makes a big deal about doing it. He earns quite well and his family is rich, so money isn't short. We've had a rough couple of years, I'm 19 weeks pregnant (so maybe very hormonal) but we've had 2 preg losses (one a late loss), he was diagnosed with MS and his mum had cancer, which she's now recovering from, he's also suffered from depression in the past. I've always felt fairly sure we could work it out, although I have suggested counselling in the past which, surprise, surprise he's refused. I just don't feel like I can go on like this, I don't in my heart of hearts want to split up and be a single mum, but today I have found myself fantasising about having my own place where I don't have to put up with all of these emotional ups and downs.