am i just an idiot

[missstripeysocks]

Wonder if i am being unreasonable...to feel so shitty about myself .Have just joined a playgroup and have been going for a few months some peple are ok to talk to...but some are just so awful and dont bother to make an effort have tried talking to them but am just left feeling totally snubbed this makes me feel like pants they all seem to be in little groups i just feel like crying and running away i force myself to go for the sake of my little boy.....I realise this is probably more my own problem because i just go home and feel a bit worthless and think i am not worth getting to know...i just want to slap myself for even being bothered...one woman started off being friendly and then started asking me really personal questions which i felt was a bit odd after she got what she wanted out of me she didnt bother again and this is the lady that i notice everyone seems to flock round i feel as if i am back at school for even feeling so bothered by this!

I loathed playgroups when DD was small. In the end, I sent her to a nursery in order that she could interact with other children.
What sort of questions was the woman asking you?

YANBU, this is why I don't bother going to them anymore. I go to the park or walks with ds instead. There are plenty of other things you can do, if you don't enjoy it, don't go

stop going. Seriously - you're not getting anything positive out of this experience and its just making you feel crappy. Some groups are lovely and openly friendly, some are cliquey and horrible and most are somewhere inbetween. Find a different group that you do get on with.

I only go because its such a small place and he will end up going to school with these kids so i will probably stick out like a sore thumb even more if i dont go...the woman was asking me things like is it your son thats got so and so preg?, how do u feel about that? are you sad or happy? were u not here last week because your feeling down? eh I dont even know her just feel its a bit uncomfortable.....

Why do people think that if they turn up at a toddler group (or anything else for that matter) everyone else there should be nice to them and talk to them and be their friend, just because they both have children there?

Some people are nice to talk to....well talk to them then. The one asking personal questions was probably trying to get to know you. So what if there were others there talking to their own friends instead of you?

A little perspective is whats needed.

You are not an idiot. I loathe playgroups and although I try to make conversation with other parents about their DC's it never seems to be anything other than forced. I think there may be something wrong with me.

very true peppynephrine....its prob my own problem i feel this way ...i dont expect to be best buddies just thought it would be easier than what it is..and as for the person asking personal questons perhaps she was trying to be friendly and i just took it all the wrong way...must say i do try and talk to everyone ...ah well i suppose i can see and admit perhaps i am my own problem