to think that mum "not liking" a child

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is not a good reason to exclude them from a party when all other children in class invited???

DD is going to a classmates party this pm. Her BF has not been invited - all other classmates have. She says it's because birthday girl's Mum doesn't like her BF. DDs BF is the most lovely polite and friendly wee girl you could imagine and is very ay being left out. Is other Mum being a bitch or not?

I don't agree with any parties where everyone in a class bar one is invited - you either invite a select number or all of them, it's so mean to leave out one or two.

If it's the birthday girl's decision, then it makes it more understandable - but if it's entirely down to the BD girl's mum then that's just awful.

If the birthday girl was my DD and had said "I want everyone to come, but not her" then I would have made her limit her choice to a max of around half the girls to avoid this issue - it makes me so sad [pathetic softy liberal type]

I would never do a whole class party for this exact reason, very few children like the other 29 IME. My DC just pick their friends.

I would do a special treat for dd and the excluded friend. I would also ensure that other parents knew why your dd was not coming.

I honestly would NOT allow my child attend a party where ONE child was left out.

This is the kind of thing that makes me want to scream and break out of the middle class revolutionary road hell

All bourgeois politeness and wine on the surface, seething dysfunction beneath

Haha, I look forward to when "but EVERYONE else has the latest trainers, mom!" Did you actually confirm it?

I suspect that this has been garbled/exaggerated by someone along the line.

Unless you have actually heard the mother's reasons, and know for sure how many invitations were sent out, then there is no reason to make assumptions on anyone's bitchiness.

Take your DD and BF somewhere instead of the party

You say the accusation that DD and other girl bullied birthday girl turned out to be a load of nonsense. Maybe the birthday girl doesn't see it that way? I wouldnt as a child have wanted to invite a child to my party that had bullied me.

Inviting the whole class bar one is bullying though. It's wrong to single someone out like that especially a little girl.

We don't know the age of the kids though? Not inviting a 5 year old who has bullied is imo very different to not inviting a 10 year old who bullies.

Not really. In fact 10 year olds would be more aware of the exclusion.

Are you just going on DD's interpretation of events? Do you know for certain absolutely everyone else in the class is invited apart from DD's BF? Everyone here seems quick to assume the information convey by DD is correct.

Cruel!