To expect a new boyfriend to get back to me within 24 hours?

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I was wondering if I am BU to expect a new bloke to get back to me within 24 hours if I have a health problem??

I went to the nurse at the surgery for a BP check it was 180 over 110 which is obviously shockingly high. I came home and emailed him about it he did not mention it whatsoever this was last Wednesday it was only Saturday he emailed me to say he had an overwhelming need to take care of me???

Am I being over the top to expect him to mention it speficially and sooner?

Why are men always on a time delay?

I have only known him since New Years Eve we met online on pof and I went down to his for 4 days in the half-term. He lives in London and I live up in the east midlands so we can only meet up monthly owing to petrol/schedule/childcare issues etc.

He has had a severe tooth crisis in that his top teeth were all knocked out last summer and he has had several dental treatments in January/February to see to the preparatory treatment prior to his new false ones going in permanently (I think they drill them in I am not entirely sure but they won't be ones you put in a glass of water at night lol!!). I have given him buckets of support over it I couldn't be nicer.

Am I overreacting?

The BP is a particularly touchy issue as both my parents are dead they both died of stroke-related problems and I am an only child.

Any thoughts you fine ladies out there I would so appreciate it??

Thanks!

he would sit on his bachelor chair and had to be reminded to get off it and sit next to me on the settee however by the end of the four days he had become much better at that

Good grief: you sound terribly needy to me. If you're that bothered about his failure to dance attendance on you pick up the phone and tell him rather than game playing.

I hope never to date a man who has a bachelor chair

....Op you could buy your own spinster chair and, then, both stubbornly sit there refusing to move.

London men?

It's always a bad sign if you have to persuade someone to sit next to you, Londoner or non-Londoner.

at bachelor and spinster chairs

Arf at London men

Right. If a man treated me the way you have treated your man I would end it now and fast.

To be clear: If a new boyfriend emailed me that he had high blood pressure and then became arsey with me for not getting back to him within 24 hours, I would see my future with him as a nightmare of impossibly high standards and punishments if I failed to please.

So YABU, but he sounds like a bit of a non starter anyway.

Leave this relationship and get yourself a nice Labrador. Much easier to train and always eager to please. Which I think is what you want.

You've been 'seeing him' since new years eve, which is two months ago, but you can only meet every month.......so how many times have you actually met each other in real life ?

He's dodged 3 out of 5 phone calls......it's not exactly a relationship is it?

Quite apart from that you do sound a bit unrealistic in your expectations, it's only two months, so still very early days to be laying your medical problems on him......

why do you need to sit waiting
want to talk?
call him
don't sit like wee doting girlfriend waiting on him
tbh if your relationship was more stable,felt robust,then you'd have intuitively
called him. if it feels one sided means it probably is one sided

do you feel like a couple, attached,with regard and connection
or a couple who meet to shag

this reminds me satc manhattan man acity mutation incapable of life outside metropolis

Sorry OP but I agree with others - you both sound very odd. Is there a cultural gap here - are you from another planet culture or perhaps very old from an older generation?

You appear to be trying to run this relationship according to sine sort of protocol - the bachelor chair, the time limits on responses, the notion of how someone should or shouldn't respond to news of your medical issues.

Hard to advise when I can't really get onto the same page as you iyswim.

London Men? Bachelor chair? Are you from a Jane Austen novel?

I think maybe he's not the guy for you.

This is so entertaining

I'm only going to repeat what everyone else is saying: London men, batchelor/spinster chair...there's not much that has me giggling hysterically at 4am like an unhinged insomniac but this is fab. Thanks OP & fellow mners. Fwiw op I think you need to cast your net wider and please please start a dating blog. The world will be agog.
He is out there somewhere waiting for you...
Ps my dh is a London man and he has always sat next to me on the sofa but has sometimes needed reminding to tell me my hair looks nice after a visit to the salon. I exect if I had high bp and explained what it meant that he'd appear suitably interested.

Sorry... I just have to ask: how were his teeth knocked out?

What did his ex wife die of? Was it BP related?

He doesn't sound ready for a commitment, if I were you I'd keep on dating others, and let time tell if it is actually going somewhere. Why hasn't he come to see you more often, say weekly? The dentistry? Maybe he should wait until all that is done and he has time to properly date?
People who say they love someone when they have only spent a few days with each other, need to spend time together, face to face in the flesh, not via technology. Knowing someone for not quite 2 months, more or less all via the computer, sounds like you are both rushing things.

I also want to know about how his teeth were knocked out?

I don't think its going to work out

Note to self: avoid PoF

So he's toothless, emotionally distant with erectile problems and his own special chair...

Fuck me OP, he sounds like a prize...

Here's the test; don't contact him, don't organise stuff. Let him get in touch with you and arrange meet ups. Then you'll know how invested he is.

Oh and this is what crazy looks like.

PS: my London man pursued me with flowers and Hotel Chocolat collections. I don't think you can generalise . Wankers be everywhere.