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Urgh, Men and bars!!!!

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Gogglemint · 25/02/2012 00:23

Dh had an accident this morning involving himself and dd, which left him in hospital on an ecg. I have spent the day checking everyone is ok, pretending not to worry etc when I am worried sick etc. Had been up all night with a stomach bug too, so have had approx 3 hours sleep.
Dh then decides he is ok to go out for a drink with his friends as planned. He is still out now, and will be for the next few hours. Texted him to check he was still ok, and received "will be home in next two hours". I'm still up doing all the work I didn't do today because I was sorting everything out. Fair enough, the accident was not his fault, but I am cross that I will still be up working after he is home and in bed (drunk), yet will still be the one that has to get up with dd at 6am, despite having scraped together 6 hours of sleep over two days. If he had come home at 10 as planned, which would still have given him 5 hours drinking time, he could have got up with us too, and I could have done some of this in the morning.

I much much MUCH preferred parenting as a single parent!!

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NatashaBee · 25/02/2012 00:28

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PomBearAtTheGatesOfDoom · 25/02/2012 00:31

Wake him every hour on the hour all night "for the concussion" even if he hasn't had one and then at 6am say "oh you may as well get up now darling" and roll over and go back to sleep. Resist all attempts to rouse you before noon by faking a coma if necessary!

Gogglemint · 25/02/2012 00:34

I was hoping he would take dd out tomorrow pm so I can sleep, but feel bad at the same time as he was in hospital 12 hours ago, so don't want to load too much on him! However I think he's going out with his friends again, as it is rare that they are all in the same town together (but he sees them individually every few weeks). I get a night out in June, it is already booked!! Grin.

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verityverbiage · 25/02/2012 00:35

Sounds electrical???

What's he doing going out after being in hospital having an ECG?

I hope he's alright but he needs to look after himself a little better.

Gogglemint · 25/02/2012 00:36

Pom, I love you!! I would feel so vindicated if I did that (and he will be too tired to do it again tomorrow night, so I can go to bed at 10 instead of worrying about whether he can get home ok). I can't cope with the over-tired grumps though, they are not worth the vindication!

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WorraLiberty · 25/02/2012 00:38

What work do you have to do that's so important you can't leave it til the morning? Confused

Gogglemint · 25/02/2012 00:39

He was taken in for fitting/epilepsy after coming off his bike with dd on the back. I'm worried because he is going home the same way tonight as he did this morning, on his (pedal) bike, but drunk! But if I get cross with him then it's flipped on me as he is an adult, can look after himself etc (although I think he is being an idiot!).

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verityverbiage · 25/02/2012 00:40

He is being an idiot.

Although I know very little about epilepsy.

Gogglemint · 25/02/2012 00:42

Worral - it's more that I can't concentrate properly once dd is up as she is quite demanding. I've left it until the morning before and it hasn't gone well, and there is too much to finish it tonight, so need to do some tonight and some tomorrow night. I don't sleep well if I leave it as I keep thinking that I haven't finished it, keep waking up etc, so would rather do it and sleep well afterwards iyswim. Am thinking I should move from juice to wine Wink

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Gogglemint · 25/02/2012 00:43

You ladies are so good at sanity saving. I have been squirming over this since 10, and in just 10 mins you have made me feel much less neurotic!!

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Mia4 · 25/02/2012 10:26

YANBU. Sounds like you need to 'collect' next weekend and let him be the one doing it all. Fairs fair afterall.

PurplePidjin · 25/02/2012 10:36

He does know that alcohol can trigger fits in some people? What the actual fuck does he think he's doing?!

Two issues - the fact that he thinks it's OK to gallivant off to the pub when he's seriously ill, and the complete lack of respect he's showing by dumping all family responsibility onto your shoulders.

I suggest that you leave him a daughter and a list of jobs and let him get on with it. His hangover is self inflicted, your tummy bug isn't Angry

HeadfirstForHalos · 25/02/2012 11:24

It's an arrestable offence to ride a bicycle whilst drunk, that on top of drinking after an accident and dumping everything on you would put him in my bad books!

I hope he's not still in bed, you need a rest too.

ChaoticAngel · 25/02/2012 11:49

If he's well enought to go out drinking then he's well enough to look after dd while you get some rest.

minimaw · 25/02/2012 12:09

Hold on, he's epileptic and cycling in town with a child on the back of his bike? Have I got this right or were the fits brought on by the accident?

Gogglemint · 26/02/2012 11:53

The fits were brought on by the accident.

The hospital couldn't find anything but I was still a bit Hmm. He got up and I stayed in bed, and I didn't even need to ask - I think he saw my face when he got home and realised he needed to suck up a bit! Also went to bed at 8.30 last night, and got up at 9 today as dd decided to lie in, amazing!!!

He also realised he was an idiot as dd hadn't seen him from him being carted off in an ambulance until Saturday morning, so was furious with him for making her worry.

Thank you for making me not feel totally irrational!

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LovedayPan · 26/02/2012 12:02

could we say "my dh and bars"? with respect....Smile

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