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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to be a little worried about how things will go at my daughter's wedding......

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Northernlurker · 24/02/2012 19:48

Dd has decided that whilst she wants to get married she never wants to leave me. (Fair enough ) She isn't at all keen on the idea of her sister's leaving home either but accepts that's up to them. I have suggested that her husband move in with us but she doesn't seem to see the need for that so what we settled on last night is that we'll have the wedding and then I'll pick her up afterwards and bring her home.
She thinks this a great scheme. I am little concerned it will appear odd. AIBU?

She is 4 btw

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PomBearAtTheGatesOfDoom · 24/02/2012 19:50

Our DD announced that she is never getting married, she's going to stay home and look after DH and I and we can live in a little house at the bottom of her garden, and she will cook stew for tea on mondays
The plan is that she will be a famous author and have more money than JK Rowling, and live in the mansion that the cottage is at the end of the garden of
I shall suggest your DDs excellent plan to her next time she mentions it, just in case she decides she would like a wedding one day...

wigglesrock · 24/02/2012 19:50

My 4 year old wants to buy the house next door to us so we will always be together and so I can feed all her animals when she goes to work as a nursery school teacher in the nursery she now attends

She has no intention of getting married but quite fancies a honeymoon

DeWe · 24/02/2012 19:52

At 4yo dd1 was adamant she was marrying daddy. We eventually decided to discuss it at 16yo if she still wanted to.

TreacleSoda · 24/02/2012 19:53

awww......I vividly remember telling my parents I would never want to leave them, that I would always want to stay home with them. I hadn't counted on how annoying I would find them them once I became a teenager .

Now DD, age 5, is telling me the same thing, about how she wants to stay with us, and I just think awwwww......wait until you find us the most embarassing people on earth and see how things change!

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Northernlurker · 24/02/2012 19:54

Such cute plans!

Dd started to cry when I alluded to sisters growing up. They are 6 and 9 years older than her so I thought it good to start chatting about this. She said 'One day I will go and find them' - like they were being stolen away to the ends of the earth! I tried to point out they'd probably be in Manchester or similar so easily accessible but she wasn't having it.

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EverybodysSnowyEyed · 24/02/2012 19:54

DS didn't want to leave home (he was 3 at the time). i mentioned that he could live in a flat and share with his sister. He looked a bit puzzled,

"But Mummy, what would my wife say about that?"

That boy knows his place!!

TreacleSoda · 24/02/2012 19:54

Oh, and thankfully my parents aren't annoying now. Or at least they are only midly and intermittently irritating, as is the job description of all parents of grown ups, I'd imagine...

leftmymistletoeatthedoor · 24/02/2012 20:01

Its fine.

Ds is going to marry his best friend - who is a boy. They will have babies and so will his sister but everyone will come and live with us and I will look after all the children.

I'm not that keen.

JerichoStarQuilt · 24/02/2012 20:03

Have you got little bits of fabric to put in with the invitations, and a really pushy demand for monetary gifts?

That's the important bit, really the rest is optional, especially at age 4.

toddlerama · 24/02/2012 20:06

DD1 is 4 and will only marry a prince. She needs to be a princess when she grows up and now she knows daddy and I aren't actual royalty she's keen to upgrade.

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Northernlurker · 24/02/2012 20:07

Jerocho - in all seriousness I've sized up the aisle of our church and realised tehy need to pick slimline dresses f they're to have hope of gettingup it with dh on their arm. It's a non-conformist church and we went to a wedding there last year where the bride's dress was so wide she had to process alone with her dad scuttling behind her.

Mind you dd1 is nearly 14 and I was only 20 when I got married so you know times moving on.......

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FaithHopeAndKevin · 24/02/2012 20:07

DD is going to buy next door and make it into a castle.
DS1 is never leaving home. He also assures me he is never going to have a lie in.
DS2 wants to marry me. Or DS1. But not daddy because that would be silly.

Kayzr · 24/02/2012 20:11

I must be a bad bad mum as DS1 is already planning on moving to live near Heathrow so he can get to work easily. He wants to be a pilot with either Virgin or Singapore Airlines. But I can visit to make his dinner.

He is 5.

lazylula · 24/02/2012 20:15

My ds1 (6) is marrying his best friend and he is going to be a zoo keeper and she is going to be an optician. We can go round for Sunday dinner, they have it all set up!

Pocketsocks · 24/02/2012 20:17

DS1 (6) told me the other day that I will be the one doing his shopping when he's a grown up.
He's currently supposed to be packing to move in with his friend after deciding he no longer likes me ( result of a time out)but somehow keeps finding excuses to put it off. Apprently it would all go a lot faster if I did all his packing.
The fact that he doesn't know where his friend lives seems to be a non issue.

JerichoStarQuilt · 24/02/2012 20:20

northern - all the more reason to dispense with the 'giving away'!

TwoStepsBack · 24/02/2012 20:20

Aww...... these are lovely and makes me wish mine were little again.

You do realise a lot of you will be the subject of MIL threads in the future don't you?

Dozer · 24/02/2012 20:44

faith, your ds1 sounds like he'll be popular, a man that stays home and never lies in! And good for DD!

latrucha · 24/02/2012 20:55

DD wants to marry me. She told me today. Her little brother will be the big sister, DH will be the granny and her dolly will be the baby.

Sounds good to me.

shewhowines · 24/02/2012 20:57

My Ds is still going to sit on my knee when he is 50!

DilysPrice · 24/02/2012 21:03

DD was never going to go to university because she never wanted to leave us. I explained to her that there was a special university she could get to on the bus every day that was just next to the museum with the Pattern Pod and the wet play zone, so if she worked really hard at her sums and went there she would never have to leave us

edam · 24/02/2012 21:03

aw...

ds used to insist that he wanted to live with Mummy for ever and ever. Now he's eight his plans have developed, particularly in connection with his future bride. There's a little girl in his class and they have worked out their whole futures - they are going to get married when they are 23 (because they have to go to university, first apparently - no idea where that came from but I'm quite impressed), she's going to be a zoo-keeper, he's going to be a train driver. They will have five babies - she wanted six, ds wanted one, so they compromised on five (you can tell who is the dominant force in this relationship ). Monday to Wednesday ds will take the children to work with him (going to be a bit squashed in that driver's cab), Thursday and Friday she'll take them to work at the zoo.

I have visions of this little girl growing up to be a lion-keeper and my future grandchildren being eaten while she's distracted!

whoputmeincharge · 24/02/2012 21:05

DS 1, 2, and 3 are going to buy the terraces adjoining ours. As they are 10, 9 and 7 they are prepared to move in their wives so they can look after their children. They will knock a corridor through the four houses and go round to DS 1's house to play games and around to ours for tea.

I have reserved the right to install a lockable door into ours and set expectations that we may bugger arf to Oz for months at a time leaving them to babysit for DS 4

gemma4d · 24/02/2012 21:09

Well my daughter is going to marry Prince Harry and have quadruplets!

gemma4d · 24/02/2012 21:10

She is 4 btw. I am a little concerned about the age gap. And about looking after the 4 grandchildren!

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