To cut these people out?

[Chattymummyhere]

AIBU to cut people out of ours and our childrens lives who constantly;

Ignor us
Undermind our parenting
Lie
Spread horrible things about us
When we let them look after the oldest bring him back over 2 hours late with not so much as a text or call to let us know his ok and why they are late

Or should I just suck it up

Oooh are these family or friends?

YANBU. Get rid of anyone who isn't adding anything to your life.

If I wa surrounded by people like that I would up sticks and move!!

Seriously, who are these people?

Can you not see the answer to that one yourself?

Get rid. Life is too short...

Would there be a huge problem cutting them out?

It depends on what part they play in yours and your children's lives

And also if you can put your hand on your heart and say you're totally blameless too and do none of the things in your OP.

I get told I live in a bubble as do not have lots of friends but the ines I have are precious and would not do any of what OP says however my friends have friends who do- so why be friends they are not friends be ruthless although must agree with WorraL do you participate in these undertakings ... Unless it family and just tell them to stop and do not be two faced about it

ooh that sounds horrid not calling you 2 faced just saying if is family should know better and rather than asking if cut them out deal with situation they should handle it

Tbh if it was family doing that to me I'd most probably cut them out too.

It is family which is why it has been left going on for so long, we have tried to give so many chances and just when we think we are getting somewhere they go back to their old way again. Think years of being civil and putting on fake smiles over sunday dinners, family gatherings where they always hate to look good to their friends and other family members whilst making us look like the worst people/parents ever.

What do the children get out of this? Some more family members and extra pressents that is all my oldest will only ask for one person out of this section of the family as he is not bothered with the rest as they only want him when it suits them, normally when other family members are over to play the look how good we are part.

What do we get out of this? Ear ache constant demands of our time, told our house is not good enough and that we waste our money, when we buy the kids stuff like books and clothes!

that is suposed to say have not hate

Get rid. Even if it is family, just phase yourselves out..it's easily done.

you so need to have it out with them though why are they behaving like this .??

You "let them" look after your oldest though.

Is that a treat? You make it sound like you are doing them a favour.

Maybe they think looking after your child is doing YOU a favour, and giving you an extra two hours is extra nice.

But if they are that horrible, yes I would cut them out.

I let them when they ask, I have never asked them myself unless it has been an emergency and in which 99% of times they have said no, so I guess you could say it is a treat I have no need for them to have my child. I am a stay at home parent my job is to parent and I enjoy spending time with my children. My partner has no wishes for them to look after our children unless 100% needed yet is always pressured into it.