WIBU to go and talk to teacher or head at DD school?

[pancakedays]

DD started high school last year. We moved to a new town (DP work) which is 10 miles from her middle school.
DD was bullied by another girl during year 7. Girl was new to the school and targeted my DD.
Teacher at the old school attempted to deal with it, by talking with the girl and her mother. We should have made a bigger deal of it at the time but knew that we were moving and DD would be getting a fresh start away from this girl.

During the last week of term things escalated. Girl hid DD belongings, PE shorts down the toilet, lunch box emptied, lots of things but nothing physical. All of this was witnessed by other children. Girl was told off, threatened with missing leavers disco, but I feel the school did not deal with it very well as it was the last week and they were all leaving.

At the end of the summer holidays girl's mother phones me. She stated that I was a f evil b for accusing her DD of being a bully and doing all the things stated above. She said it was my DD fault for not sticking up for herself and that we were both pathetic and that she actually enjoyed the fact that her DD had been 'winding us up'. I put the phone down and have not heard anything since.

DD is happy at school. Has made friends and doing well.
She came home today distraught. She had a call from a friend from her old school to say that this girl will be attending her school soon as she is not 'getting on well' at her new one!

I am so worried that this will all start up again. DP thinks I am over reacting on hearsay, and should wait and see.
Does anyone have any advice. Would I be unreasonable to go and talk to teacher or head DD'S school?

Your poor dd I hope this is a wind up? A cruel one though.

graham would this scenario, give the school adequate grounds to NOT accept the girl?

Also-would the HT be permitted to tell OP that they have received any application from/ are NOT admitting the girl?

Call the school and request a meeting with a member of the senior management team as a matter of urgency.

As previous posters have stated the head/staff can't tell you if the girl has applied however they can tell you how they would plan to proceed IF she has applied.

If this is a managed move due to her bad behaviour she could automaticaly be re-located to avoid further issues and the high chance of a current pupil being bullied. Remember the school do not want to add to their own troubles. However if she has applied due to a move and there has been no record of her poor behaviour then the school have to accept her provided they have the space.

Good luck.

bejeezus, I don't know if the school would have grounds for refusing the girl on a MM or expulsion transferal. I know that my own LA rarely accepts any such refusal and that it's said by authorities such as ACE that it's rare for objections to be upheld if procedure is followed properly and fairly - eg providing that the school doesn't already have too many such pupils and that it hasn't recently taken on a similar pupil and so therefore should by rights have dropped to the bottom of the list of candidates.

Generally LA's will, I'm told, try to work with the school to gain their cooperation. They can order the school to take the pupil but try not to do that. This is where the feet-dragging can come into play. A school may argue, for example, that they haven't the resources to cope with a difficult child, and that will be looked into and suggestions made. Sometimes that will mean that the school and parents are persuaded to agree to the child going into a PRU and then into the school at a later date.

I should think that officially the HT can't say that the child is not going there but I'd also feel that it's quite possible that he/she may reassure a parent in the OPs position that they've had no application from a child of the name so and so off the record.

I'm not a professional in this field but am only going from my own experience as a parent who has had to do some considerable questioning and research of my own LA's take on this sort of issue as well as the way in which LAs generally work overall.

I meant to say...that they HAVEN'T received an application...

Sorry, my last sentence sounded rude and as if I was telling you off, Bejeezus. I didn't mean it that way but meant to make it clear that I'm not an expert but am just giving my experience and opinion. :)

Sorry x plates-formes you understood what I meant anyway

Jeez! I mean x posted

You didn't sound rude at all!