Other people taking your child swimming

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AIBU/ overprotective not want my 7 yo to go swimming with another family. she has been invited. she is very small but a reasonable swimmer. it is a busy pool in different sections. with water slides. i always feel that people instinctively watch their own dc more closely than others so am nervous of the supervision issue...

OK, that does make a big difference, because everyone's idea of what "reasonable" means for a 7yo swimmer. I certainly have a very different perspective because kids here swim so much more and so much earlier (on average). My 4yo can swim a lap of a 30 metre pool, for example, and is currently working on his backstroke.

I guess the other thing to consider is how naturally cautious she is. Is she likely to play it safe or will she need someone to stop her leaping of the high-board?

to those who think i am VERY unreasonable... imo it really, really depends also on the geography of the pool. my small local pool, would be no prob. this pool is huge and in about 4 sections with slides , wave pool etc. i lost track of my 9yo many times there in the summer but she is a strong swimmer...

bubba, she loves diving under water but hates being out of her depth. if she swam a length without putting her feet down i would be pretty amazed.

she has scraped into the top group of her school/ class swimming lessons, however! funny how things vary from country to country...

YANBU. Drowning is a very quick, quiet thing.
You are her mum, you are allowed to be protective.
I say this from the point of view of being a mum, being someone who has seen a child drown and has rescued another (whose mum was there but happened to miss what happened, easily done). Not in UK and we are v conscious of water-safety.

treadwarily, what a heartbreaking post.

i have decided to offer to go along with them.

i think that having given it this much thought, i have to follow my instincts and accept that people will always differ on what they view as overprotective.

So at what age are you going to stop following her around when she is out with friends and their parents on a treat?

umm.... i have never followed her round ever on any treat actually. this would be a first, due to the circs explained in quite a bit of detail above. she is a very young 7. not 9, 10, 11....

Hmmm .....well up to you and I did read all the posts but it does sound over the top protective. I get the description of the pool but she is 7 not 3.