to feel like i have no one 'real' to talk to

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i feel like since having my two dd's and moving away from my family, that i have no one to talk too. i have some 'mummy friends' but their partners know my husband so i can't really rant to them without some part of me feeling like it will get back to husband. i can't phone up a friend when i am having a bad day and just blow off some steam, i'm having a pretty crap time at work too and i could just rip my hair out sometimes!

apart from that, i love my daughters so much and they bring me so much happiness (even with the fighting, screaming and the fact that my house looks like the pink fairy came and vomited all over it)

That is where Mumsnet come in!

Same here, I have work colleagues but I am not close to anyone here. Moved to this area a couple of years ago but have pretty much worked full time since so have not even had the chance to make school mum friends.

I do bury an awful lot and just get on with it but really miss having a close knit group of girlie mates to chat to

Hello

my eldest DD is 8 and youngest is 4 - i have been 'out with the girls' 3 times in 8 years, i don't particularly like a drink either. i've worked at my current place for a little over 2yrs (part time) and i just don't feel like i could talk to anyone there, live in a pretty small area, its the whole 'you farted in one town and you've shat your pants in the next' its horrific! tried to get pally with a couple mums from school but didn't really work out, we had a couple of coffees/play dates but nothing further progressed.

my husband is always on at me to go to this or that with whoever but its difficult because i dont drive and buses are crap! last bus at 8:30 to my little village :( so no zumba or gym for me

I so miss having a moan!

Why don't you drive OP? Unless it's money or disability then you need to accept that you are isolating yourself by choice.

Can you Skype with old girlfriends? Or go to visit an old friend for the a day and a night?

Rinkan sometimes it's not that easy. We are moving a village further out of town soon and like the OP I don't drive and the buses stop at 8:00 I am going to try to learn to drive but have a great fear that I won't actually be able to! Plus finding the time with young DC is hard. OP I get it, I don't have a wide social circle either and it can feel isolating sometimes. (unmumsnetty hug :))

Mumsnet is better than RL conversation.

Had friends round at weekend and would have rather have chatted with the lovelies on here

You dont have to drink alcohol to go out and socialise. Go out and drink soft drinks.. :)

Have to agree it is hard meeting people or making friends. I moved last July and still am "billy no mates". Not only does my DH drive me mad making suggestions on how to make friends but now my sisters are trying to help too. I'm not really feeling the same as you OP in regards to having someone to talk to. I am constantly on the phone. I am hoping that the summer will bring better things.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1407280-OK-Friendship-any-lonely-bored-peeps-out-there

I started this thread a while ago. If you need friends, you have to be proactive in going out of your way to meet new people. They're not going to come knocking on your door you know!

I'll up the original thread too.

Thanks!
Rinkan

I don't drive because we couldn't afford to run two cars at the moment, as we are trying to clear off some debts from a few years ago. I completely disagree that I am isolating myself by choice. You should come live in my village for a few weeks without a car. So myself and youngest DD get the bus too and from nursery/work 5 days a week - she sees it as a big adventure thankfully!

strawberrypenguin

Thanks for the unmumsnetty hug :) I love living where we do, small village school only 13 kids in DD's class so plenty of individual attention. I'm relatively young and alot of the mums here are that bit older than me so I think that causes a barrier of sorts

dottygirl1

Must get that old phonebook dusted off! Going to organise girly day out around Easter holidays, should be fun

kumquatsarethelonelyfruit

I'll take a look at that thread thank you!

I feel the same. Thankfully we have Mumsnet :)

I don't have anybody either, apart from my DH and my DC. I live in a country where I have no family or friends. Thank goodness for Mumsnet

I think friendships take a long time to build. And I don't agree that that's what mumsnet is for, face to face friendship is different.

I think that if you can go out with friends in the evening that helps as children are a big barrier to conversation. It also helps to try and befriend people who have TIME and the inclination to go out. I've ended up with about 4 close friends now I've lived here about 12 years and they are all very different, but all people who we mutually made the effort even in the awkward initial days.

I hope you feel less lonely soon.

Thanks

I have a couple of ladies who I do get on with, but ones just had a baby a few months ago and not available for nights out quite yet, and the other works away a lot. DD's birthday in March and have planned a party for me her to try and get things going with the 'friend' thing.

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