AIBU to be very annoyed that DH 'accidentally' read my FB/facebook messages?

[MeghanMc]

DH is furious now because he 'accidentally' read my FB message. Apparently he was checking his FB message and accidentally clicked on my FB and saw a 'ranting' session that I had nearly a month ago with a friend about how rubbish our husband is.

DH did apologise (if it is even acceptable) for reading it but he basically asked me do I have anything to say to myself?!?!?!

I said woman has ranting moment, we get it off our chest and forget about it. I can't even remember what I said and I have to read the FB message again. To cut long story short, I basically said he doesn't help me out at home and I am so tired by the end of the day that I just want to go to my bed. My friend suggested a 'leg over' for DH and usually that works a treat for man and they ll be willing to help out around the house more. So I replied saying I was too tired at the end of the day (looking after 1.5 yrs DD and all the housework), and I don't see why I should do him a favour and give him a sh*g/leg over.

DH obviously read that and basically flew off the handle. I told him that was a month ago and things has improved since then (he sort of helping me out a little bit more) and sex life has improved (since i am less tired). Anyway, I am at work now and knowing that I will be going home to a furious husband is not very appealing!!!

Am I in the wrong for ranting our shortcomings to friend?

I have read someones private message by accident, I thought I was logged on to my account and didn't realise at first.

Treating sex as a "leg over" and "favour" to "get him to do more housework"...classy.

You got caught out having a pop at him on FB then you come on here talking about him?

Simply stunning.

If you were the last one logged in it's easy for someone else to assume they have logged in but it defaults to you, happens to us all the time.

As mentioned above, don't put anything on the Internet you wouldn't want quoted back at you in public.

YABU to come here and moan about your DH some more.

Maybe its just me, but I think it is really disloyal to slag ones husband off to anyone else. I would be really upset if I found out that DH was bitching about me behind my back, especially on FB of all places, and I wouldn't dream of doing it to him. I'm amazed so many of you think what the OP did (and especially putting it into writing) is ok.

I agree with Callisto. The bitching is bad, typing it is worse, putting it out on the internet is just the pits.

The internet isnt private ever.

Are you me? I had a bit of a rant to a friend and dp was on the pc downstairs reading it because i forgot to log out But I said at the end of the day, it was all true and if i hadn't of gotten it out of my system it would of ended up in a massive argument.

You can't actually delete FB messages though? It just archives them? So be careful even in future!

You can delete them....top right hand button in message box will give you the option to delete individual messages, or the entire conversation.

Are you both 15?

What are you writing that your husband can't see? Agree you sound about 12. I favour some privacy in marriage and don't expect my husband to open my letters or emails but my husband and I are each other's "friends" anyway so read the limited crap we both post.
Some things should be private but Facebook? I don't get it. The internet isn't a good forum for posting about your partner unless you accept he will read it or you keep stuff anonymous and sign off after every session. if you share a computer and don't always log out then other people using that computer will either accidentally or deliberately be able to see your stuff. Opening the wrong facebook account is easy.

I agree with folk who say bitching about your spouse to friends is disloyal. If you have a problem tell them. I would hate to think my husband was moaning about me to people whilst saying nothing to me.